[Sara]

Drop her. The first date or two or three the guy always pays and that Im accustomed to that but once its gets beyond the first couple of dates I start feeling bad that guys ALWAYS pay and I at least offer. Sometimes it works and we split or its "my treat." Some guys always insists on paying always. But at least my offer was there.

[Litos]

Originally Posted by 1hot135I

Litos you seem to be the only person who doesn't have a problem paying for it all. Was it always like that?

it's been like that for a year, but she really never had to pay for anything other than her car.

i was paying for her Scion XB, which was a badass little toy, but then when we sold it and got the bimmer, i told her i'd make the payments on both cars to make up for the gas she was going to have to pay for the SRT8, HAHA !!!!

well, gas got so outlandishly high that SHE'S driving the bimmer and i'm driving the SRT8. she can go 360 miles on $58 and i go 290 miles on $70.

that said, she's ALWAYS cleaned, washed clothes, ironed and done anything vagina related and she's has the same full time accounting job for over 4 years

our marriage is very stable because we both have responsibilities and expectations.

[Express]

im sure all women pay men back in some way or another...... :P

[pt]

This isn't about whether or not men should pay for everything. It's about whether or not she's right for you. The answer clearly is NO - if she was, you wouldn't care about who's paying the bill.

It's time to walk away - more down-to-earth people that won't piss you off are out there.

[mact3333]

why is it that all these emotionally labile threads are started by asians??.......there must be a reason why asian women drivers are the worst of drivers and asian men are the most emotionally labile.

are asian men too nice and weak?......they say alot of crude things on here begging for acceptance into the man-pig clandestine rah rah club, yet its conspicuously clear that they are attached, labile and desire self esteem/confidence.

Just kiddin ya man, I made the whole thing up....

In the end, doesnt matter if you are dating or married, you will pay financially.

Hey Bahn, shall I put up a log chart of money velocity vs giner-whipped quotient ???.....


BTW, screw Kiemyster, we need all these these types of posts on OT thread cause they are alot more interesting that any other threads on here...free lessons in human nature...why sign up for psych 101 when I get it first hand on here......this topic only topped by ITT---> you FAP thread.

[CollinsE90]

Originally Posted by express705

im sure all women pay men back in some way or another...... :P

Until marriage, well at least thats what I have heard

[CollinsE90]

Originally Posted by Litos

it's been like that for a year, but she really never had to pay for anything other than her car.

i was paying for her Scion XB, which was a badass little toy, but then when we sold it and got the bimmer, i told her i'd make the payments on both cars to make up for the gas she was going to have to pay for the SRT8, HAHA !!!!

well, gas got so outlandishly high that SHE'S driving the bimmer and i'm driving the SRT8. she can go 360 miles on $58 and i go 290 miles on $70.

that said, she's ALWAYS cleaned, washed clothes, ironed and done anything vagina related and she's has the same full time accounting job for over 4 years

our marriage is very stable because we both have responsibilities and expectations.

Where does her full time job money go?

[nnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn]

Originally Posted by mact3333

why is it that all these emotionally labile threads are started by asians??.......there must be a reason why asian women drivers are the worst of drivers and asian men are the most emotionally labile.

are asian men too nice and weak?......they say alot of crude things on here begging for acceptance into the man-pig clandestine rah rah club, yet its conspicuously clear that they are attached, labile and desire self esteem/confidence.

you should have stopped your post here...

[JayKay335i]

Only if I can chain a woman up in my basement with a soapy rag and a stack of dirty dishes

[Litos]

Originally Posted by CollinsE90

Where does her full time job money go?

well, she's paying off bills that SHE had. she's been paying @ $1600 in bills every month since October of last year - (2) Chase CC and some other First Financial Account that she had

on July 15th she will be completely debt free - with the exception of the house and the cars that are under her name as well.

starting next month she's depositing $1200 every month ($600 a paycheck) into a savings account that has my name all over it LOLOLOL.

it's an agreement we made back when she committed to paying off her debt.

i told her i'd pay for everything if she paid off her debt - i knew it would come back to bless me later.

so yeah, i'm pretty much going to get $1200 a month for a couple years since i paid @ $3200-3300 in bills every month for the last 9 months.

in 6 months that's $7200 - not a bad "investment"

[M3Bahn]

Originally Posted by mact3333

why is it that all these emotionally labile threads are started by asians??...

In the end, doesnt matter if you are dating or married, you will pay financially.

Hey Bahn, shall I put up a log chart of money velocity vs giner-whipped quotient ???.....

It's because pretty much everyone on these BMW car forums is asian.

Very true and there are other ways to end up paying greatly that have nothing to do with money.

I think it would be funny.

There should a data point called Mgina which is the earlier in life a M3 is bought for them by parents the more women problems they have later.

[M3Bahn]

Originally Posted by JCE

No, but she had screwed around on me in the past. My divorce was an accumulation of things, one being the same subject of this thread.

Some clarification; somebody noted in here that once you are together the money all comes from one place. I totally agree, but that misses the point. People in a relationship need to feel appreciated. The money is not the issue.

Insanely ironic but my ex came by the other night and stated how much she appreciated how much I did financially and the day-to-day things in our relationship. She said she didn't realize it when she had it. She said she wishes she would have said that when we were together. Of course this is all magnified by the fact she is with an ex-friend of mine that cannot hold a job and has basically been a slacker his whole life.

OP just prioritize what is important. People get hung up on emotions and settle for things they do not want. That is easy advice from somebody on a forum that has no skin in the game, but as relationships go on the little things turn into bigger things and they accumulate. It is like water torture if it isn't right, then more people get hurt the longer it goes on. Good luck.

Excellent post!

I agree, it seems the longer people are in a relationship the less they appreciate each other.
I think most people find it easier to end the relationship and think of course there something better/exciting out there not realizing how much time and energy it requires to find another person that they can mostly enjoy to be with every freakin day.

[Oregano123]

why are guys so dumb? can you not see you are paying for her youth time and pussy? for $100 and the option to dump her, that is really cheap.

[Oregano123]

Originally Posted by 1hot135I

Wow a lot of replies. First I guess I did jump into the love game sooner than most people's expectations. Second she is Dominican and Im not gonna post a pic of her on here. She works, actually we both work together although I make twice as much as her. She drives a X3, has her own house, 2 kids yada yada. If we were married and both our money went into the same account then we wouldnt be having the conversation. The conversation would be how broke I am since I got this new wife lmao. Thanks for all the input. Just basically had to vent. Thanks for listening!

[fun ticket]

This will get worse, dump her. You are paying for sex as it is and getting headaches with it. Just pay an escort (and you can be selective) and not have the headaches. Or, go find a new gf, but again, more headaches.

[Epacy2]

Ditch the twat.

[Kroy]

Originally Posted by Kiemyster

Underline implies "ohh, i see what happened here"

Bold is where you failed. LOL get rid of that baggage handling bitch please.

Sincerely,
Your friend, Kiemyster.

Originally Posted by CollinsE90

Probably got the house from her ex husband, and has kids. Get rid of that shit now.

back to back truth

[Hedges]

Ask her if she believes if woman should be treated equally if she does than tell her to pay the fuking bill and stop being inconsiderate.

[Joonsup]

i don't mind paying for the bill when i can and i appreciate the gesture of her attempting to make a reach for her purse/wallet but if she expects me to pay w/out even a simple thank you afterwards and/or never offers to flip for the bill at all, I think that should set off a warning bell of what's to come in the future if you end up getting into a longer relationship with her.

[CollinsE90]

I'm about to tell you guys something that is very hard to believe, but SOME women are smart enough to "act" like they are willing to pay.

Yea I know it's crazy to think some women are smart huh

[Spool]

Did my name get brought up in this thread anywhere? I didn't read the posts...

[CollinsE90]

Originally Posted by Spool

Did my name get brought up in this thread anywhere? I didn't read the posts...

nope