[Foodle]

Originally Posted by Templar

And girls (yes, girls), like the bad boy, douchebag, tough guy image. Grown women like confidence (without being a complete douchebag), security, and passion in my experience.

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I think it's all boil down to how well you take rejection. I bet if you ask 100 girls out a minimum of 5-6 would say yes. And think of other time as practice

Once you have "thick skin" on these rejection and you keep asking any girl you like out, your confidence will go up cause you are not worrying about rejection anymore.

[Foodle]

Originally Posted by sA x sKy

99.9% of people, who know my dilemma, tell me the same thing over and over and over again. "If your insecurities don't bother you, it won't bother other people". That is a load of bullshit. It can't be helped not to let it bother me. I'm living through it 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, and 365 days a year. The dedication required to control ones own mindset 100% is unfathomable.

OP, your problems have almost everything to do with what's in your head, and almost nothing to do with your perceived deficiency (height). You're way too obsessed with this as the cause of your not having a girlfriend. Like Templar, I'm not a tall guy either (5' 3"), but I never let it bother me.

Your vision of how to find a girlfriend is also a problem. You're not going to hit on some random chick at the mall/movies/club, hook up, and start a 2 year relationship. The way you get a girlfriend is to actually get to know a whole lot of people, let them get to know you, and hopefully one of those people is a cool chick that you like and likes you. Random hook ups rarely work.

But most important is that you need to stop obsessing about your lack of height, money, power, whatever. Those things are not your problem. Your lack of confidence is. That is THE major turn off for girls/women.

[kevinbahnz]

Originally Posted by sA x sKy

99.9% of people, who know my dilemma, tell me the same thing over and over and over again. "If your insecurities don't bother you, it won't bother other people". That is a load of bullshit. It can't be helped not to let it bother me. I'm living through it 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, and 365 days a year. The dedication required to control ones own mindset 100% is unfathomable.

It's so difficult..I've even tried pretending that it doesn't affect (they say how you act/pretend, you will eventually become?) me but it's just not possible. People who aren't in my shoes would probably never understand and that's not anyone's fault (except my dads genetics of course).

Everyone has problems, all relative of course. I know there are people out there who have it a lot worse than me, but relatively in my own "bubble" so to speak, I'm not doing too well.

I've already made an appointment to see the doctor on Monday about HGH injections but I don't think I'm even eligible anymore as my growth plates may have closed already. Keeping my fingers crossed.

As for your last two questions, neither of those are true. I want something in the middle.

Really. HGH can make you taller. I wish I had known that when I was younger. I'm only 5'4 but in my mid 30s. I know what you're going through.

[persian54]

Originally Posted by Templar

You have to have the mentality that there are so many women in the world and one saying no to you doesn't mean you're forever alone... When one says no, shrug it off and move to the next one. It really isn't a big deal.

This is probably the best way to move on. Next to finding someone immediately.

Originally Posted by Templar

And girls (yes, girls), like the bad boy, douchebag, tough guy image. Grown women like confidence (without being a complete douchebag), security, and passion in my experience. All of the women I have dated liked that I was confident in what I do, could hold down a good job, and was passionate in pretty much everything I did. My current girlfriend loves those things about me.

Sometimes it's hard to tell if a female is a girl or a woman. She may say things that only a woman says (I want someone stable, I want a "man," I only have sex if I'm in a relationship, etc), but she may not even know what she really wants and is still a "girl" (meaning she just wants to have fun, have sex, and not care about serious stuff).
Being able to judge if a female is a girl or a woman can be hard with Asians from my experience.

Originally Posted by Templar

But break it down for us, though. What do you really want? To nail as many chicks as possible (which, at your age, you should IMO) or settle down and look for marriage (personally I think you're too young)? Your "game" should be totally different depending on what you're looking for.

This is key. If one doesn't know what he wants, how is he to achieve it?

I do agree late teens is too early to be "settling down," but that doesn't mean he shouldn't have a girlfriend (meaning picking 1, instead of multiple).

I can tell you now that playing the game and having multiple women.... is more exciting than having 1 girlfriend, but it's also more work, more stress, and riskier (on top of being more expensive and time consuming....).


Your height is a disadvantage if you and another guy are equal on every other level.
But, I'm pretty sure you have something that other men do not have (whatever these "somethings" are, only you know).
I wouldn't say rely on your car to help you get a girl... you'd only end up with someone who is materialistic.
I love my car, but I have never met a women who gave a damn about my car. Most girls I know ask me how my 335i is when they see my car, only to have me correct them that I now drive a M3, and my 335i has been gone for over a year.....

Be funny and smart, but most importantly FUN. Who wants to be with someone boring anyways?

disclaimer: I didn't read everything......... so take what I say with a grain of salt

[sA x sKy]

Here's a pic of me so you guys can see me..relatively.

[kevinbahnz]

bro, i'm the same height. You will get thru this., Nice car though. we can't do anything about our height but you can start working out and learn how to dance. it will help with your confidence..

[skinnycow]

Go find a fob, they are fairly short

[Vanity]

Originally Posted by persian54

I wouldn't say rely on your car to help you get a girl... you'd only end up with someone who is materialistic.
I love my car, but I have never met a women who gave a damn about my car. Most girls I know ask me how my 335i is when they see my car, only to have me correct them that I now drive a M3, and my 335i has been gone for over a year.....

Yeah, the cars really don't matter as much as you think. My girlfriend confuses my 3 with other calls all the time. This one time we're walking to the car and she's like "it's that one right?" *points to a 7 series*. I laughed, but she genuinely was trying to memorize my car and failed, again.



And from your photos dude, you shouldn't have a problem at all with women. You're not hideous or ugly. Chill

[persian54]

Originally Posted by skinnycow

Go find a fob, they are fairly short

I have a thing for fobs but goddamn are most of them immature and naive!! a 22 year old fob is like a 17 year old high school girl here

Originally Posted by kevinbahnz

start working out and learn how to dance. it will help with your confidence..

women love a man who can dance.

I'm big, I can't dance. You're small, you can learn how to dance.

Join a dance club/team or something. You'll get in shape, meet tons of hot, sexy, fit girls who share the similar interests (i.e. dancing lol). I always wanted to do that, but my body physically cannot move like a dancer.. lol

[silvergray545]

Originally Posted by persian54

I have a thing for fobs but goddamn are most of them immature and naive!! a 22 year old fob is like a 17 year old high school girl here

Hahah that's so true

I love fobs because of their accent

Accents = my weakness

[fokus45]

Originally Posted by sA x sKy

Here's a pic of me so you guys can see me..relatively.

Good start. Lowering your car makes you look taller.

[sA x sKy]

Originally Posted by fokus45

Good start. Lowering your car makes you look taller.

...fail

[TiAg335i]

Originally Posted by persian54

I have a thing for fobs but goddamn are most of them immature and naive!! a 22 year old fob is like a 17 year old high school girl here



women love a man who can dance.

I'm big, I can't dance. You're small, you can learn how to dance.

Join a dance club/team or something. You'll get in shape, meet tons of hot, sexy, fit girls who share the similar interests (i.e. dancing lol). I always wanted to do that, but my body physically cannot move like a dancer.. lol

This is actually great advice. Huge confidence booster if you know how to dance well....comes in handy big time in clubs/venues when you actually know what you are doing, lol.

[boymonkey]

5'2" is not so bad. I see girls shorter than my gf all the time and she's 5'1". You're young. Give it a few years and reality will hit and the girls won't be as picky (about superficial things).

[persian54]

Originally Posted by silvergray545

Hahah that's so true

I love fobs because of their accent

Accents = my weakness

Yeah I love it too

And when they're English sucks... you can use it to your advantage
Especially if they happen to be Japanese (for me at least, as I'm conversationally fluent). How many non-Japanese guys in America outside of the Classroom/otaku-type people can actually speak Japanese? Very few. lol

Originally Posted by TiAg335i

This is actually great advice. Huge confidence booster if you know how to dance well....comes in handy big time in clubs/venues when you actually know what you are doing, lol.

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I never know wtf I'm doing and always am impressed when I see people who know wtf they're doing (men or women)

[Rivenscyr]

I avoid clubs and bars at all costs, the setting isnt right to pick up (Not that i can pick up)
Girls go there in groups to act sexy, get hyperactive with their girlfriends and try to pretend to be frigid in front of each other

[persian54]

Since we are talking about asians:

[Chrispy650]

Originally Posted by skinnycow

Go find a fob, they are fairly short

true that

[sA x sKy]

Originally Posted by persian54

Since we are talking about asians:

lol

[sA x sKy]

Originally Posted by Rivenscyr

I avoid clubs and bars at all costs, the setting isnt right to pick up (Not that i can pick up)
Girls go there in groups to act sexy, get hyperactive with their girlfriends and try to pretend to be frigid in front of each other

Yeah I've been to a club a few times.Webster Hall specifically..I think spending that much money every time to go out..it's not worth it. I'm just not that TYPE of guy.

[sA x sKy]

Originally Posted by boymonkey

5'2" is not so bad. I see girls shorter than my gf all the time and she's 5'1". You're young. Give it a few years and reality will hit and the girls won't be as picky (about superficial things).

lol 12 more years to go then. might as well call it quits by then.