Cost of being a guy

John 070 · 11-13-2015, 08:34 AM

What would get interesting is if you asked how much guys spend on engagement rings. Here you will get many lies, such as when you ask a guy how much he makes, or his height. Yes, today the standard is > 1.5 carat, but that's easily done with low quality. Although girls have gotten smart in asking for the GIA report...lol If I had a daughter, I'd tell her no GIA, no dice.

Kwando · 11-13-2015, 08:37 AM

Her birthday was one month into just started dated and I probably spent 500 on gift, dinner, and hotel. Our 7 month was last week and I bought her flowers for $24.99. We're also living together and while she still paying off her loan so I'm paying all the bills so her half is 850/mo.

Kwando · 11-13-2015, 08:41 AM

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Originally Posted by John 070

Yes, today the standard is > 1.5 carat, but that's easily done with low quality. Although girls have gotten smart in asking for the GIA report...lol If I had a daughter, I'd tell her no GIA, no dice.

Once I heard about a girl who asked for a bigger/more expensive engagement ring and the guy caved. I would have lost my shit if I was in that position. If it matter that much to her then I would let her find someone else to buy it.

Needbmwpartzz · 11-13-2015, 08:47 AM

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Originally Posted by Lups

Haha, he doesn't bitch when he finds out we have extra mouths living in our house, he doesn't wonder why we have a huge walk in closet full of strangers stuff and my clothes are in his closet, he makes sure my cooking knives are sharp and loads the dish washer.

We are not big on gifts and vacation time is shared. In the USA we have no family members to take the kids off of our hands, and he travels a lot for his job, so his four weeks is spent by him and the kids, while I go burn my tires.

As an exchange he gets three hot meals per day, he doesn't need to know how to change oils, he knows I handle the shit that lands on our porch and that if I spot his bicycle tire being low on air, I change the tire before he takes off in the morning.

The few times ive gotten home all messed up, limping, tired, with a black eye and all sorts of pissed he hands me a beer, and tells me there is an other fight still in me.

When ever a kid is sick and i can't sleep, eat or handle anything beyond waiting the moment I doze off to wake up with my nightmares again, he takes over all the family routines.

That isn't flowers or candy but it works for us. And I keep losing my socks.

Damn you two are perfect for each other.

You didn't hear his version

davis449 · 11-13-2015, 10:13 AM

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Originally Posted by Kwando

Once I heard about a girl who asked for a bigger/more expensive engagement ring and the guy caved. I would have lost my shit if I was in that position. If it matter that much to her then I would let her find someone else to buy it.

This is along the lines of what I was going to say. If I were to present a ring to a girl (which I never intend to do, because marriage is stupid) and she demanded a GIA report, I would kick her ass to the curb and walk on.

To Answer OP's question. I maybe spend $100 a year on the GF for "gifts". She loves me no less for it. I don't go buying her expensive shit as an apology. If I fuck up, she appreciates much more when I look her in the eye and admit it....you know, LIKE A MAN.

Alfisti · 11-13-2015, 10:19 AM

All this shit is near irrelevant, the true cost is either a) alimony payments or if she earns more then b) not having full time access to your kids.

Seen it happen to a couple of guys, decent men, they are BROKEN.

Alfisti · 11-13-2015, 10:21 AM

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Originally Posted by John 070

What would get interesting is if you asked how much guys spend on engagement rings. Here you will get many lies, such as when you ask a guy how much he makes, or his height. Yes, today the standard is > 1.5 carat, but that's easily done with low quality. Although girls have gotten smart in asking for the GIA report...lol If I had a daughter, I'd tell her no GIA, no dice.

I got married 10 years ago and made the 'mistake' of buying a really high quality diamond at just under 1Ct. The mrs had no complaints but i noticed that as her friends got hitched the diamonds were ENORMOUS, many nudging 2ct but they were dull and sort of yellow, but it didn't matter, the girls had nfi, all they knew was that it was a flash looking diamond.

davis449 · 11-13-2015, 10:34 AM

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Originally Posted by Alfisti

I got married 10 years ago and made the 'mistake' of buying a really high quality diamond at just under 1Ct. The mrs had no complaints but i noticed that as her friends got hitched the diamonds were ENORMOUS, many nudging 2ct but they were dull and sort of yellow, but it didn't matter, the girls had nfi, all they knew was that it was a flash looking diamond.

The bigger the rock on a married woman's hand, the less I think of them (and, really, their significant others too) as people right off the bat.

Lups · 11-13-2015, 11:19 AM

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Originally Posted by Alfisti

All this shit is near irrelevant, the true cost is either a) alimony payments or if she earns more then b) not having full time access to your kids.

Seen it happen to a couple of guys, decent men, they are BROKEN.

Same here. A friend of mine went through hell to be able to see his kids just because the ex wife was mildly bitter. He actually ended up in therapy, and broken would describe him well. It is very hard to believe men get justice in a divorce after hearing a couple of cases like this.

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This bigger the rock on a married woman's hand, the less I think of them (and, really, their significant others too) as people right off the bat.

Well then we can be best friends for real, I don't have a ring at all, not even a wedding ring. The whole idea of wearing a ring freaks me out, the history of those is not that nice, and women needs to prioritize the life after the grand events instead of showing off a ring.

UncleWede · 11-13-2015, 11:42 AM

One birthday I bought her the E90 . . .

One Christmas, I took the youngest to the diamond store. He picked something else. When she got the present, he "volunteered" Mom, you have too many diamonds already.

Out of the mouths of babes!!!!!!

davis449 · 11-13-2015, 11:43 AM

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Originally Posted by Lups

Well then we can be best friends for real, I don't have a ring at all, not even a wedding ring. The whole idea of wearing a ring freaks me out, the history of those is not that nice, and women needs to prioritize the life after the grand events instead of showing off a ring.

Well, then, it's official. We're friends for real.

mccannable · 11-13-2015, 11:44 AM

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My husband buys me a 12 pack of socks every Christmas.

Sounds like your husband and I would get along.

csu87 · 11-13-2015, 12:49 PM

should we account for all the time we have to spend listening to your SO bitch and complain and talk about feelings to you as well? If so, then easily 3-4k/week

RickFLM4 · 11-13-2015, 01:26 PM

There will be a wide range of answers as others have indicated. Google will probably provide better data than a sampling of people from a BMW forum who stop by to answer.

Kong Sheng Han · 11-13-2015, 07:13 PM

My car takes all my money. Can't share monies with anyone else.

Repoman · 11-13-2015, 09:19 PM

Last gift I bought my girl was a watch for $250.

Last time I bought flowers it was like $6.00. Honestly I think she appreciated the flowers more than the watch! lol

qba335i · 11-17-2015, 12:53 PM

The last "gift" that I bought for my GF (ex now) was ~$200 UPS shipping label that I used to ship all her stuff.

Usually gifts are 100-1000. The more demanding/entitled they get the less money I spend. Girls are usually pretty sneaky so they research your salary range, car/house value... And adjust expectations accordingly.

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Lups · 11-17-2015, 12:54 PM

You guys need to date nicer women.

EL Jeffe 5 · 11-17-2015, 01:36 PM

always same Costco $15.00

vsix · 11-17-2015, 02:41 PM

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Probably $35-50 on flowers. Around $200-300 for special gifts

Never bought her flower's...wait...except one time, when I cheated on her...mea culpa

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as for other expenses:
All sort of dresses ( shoe's ) and make up artist's, get covered by my credit card.

Jorgem2009 · 11-17-2015, 03:06 PM

thanks guys, this is for a business idea, and i love the honesty here hahaha

davis449 · 11-17-2015, 04:11 PM

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Originally Posted by Lups

You guys need to date nicer women.

Rare breeds like you are hard to find. I am glad I actually did find one myself. Otherwise, I would be happily single the rest of my life because I refuse to deal with the B.S. from the 98% of females.

11-13-2015, 08:34 AM	#23
John 070 Lieutenant General 1725 Rep 14,825 Posts Drives: 335i cpe Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: ZSP/ZPP/ZCW iTrader: (0)	What would get interesting is if you asked how much guys spend on engagement rings. Here you will get many lies, such as when you ask a guy how much he makes, or his height. Yes, today the standard is > 1.5 carat, but that's easily done with low quality. Although girls have gotten smart in asking for the GIA report...lol If I had a daughter, I'd tell her no GIA, no dice.
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11-13-2015, 10:19 AM	#28
Alfisti Brigadier General 6965 Rep 3,289 Posts Drives: 2008 Saab 9-3 Combi Join Date: Nov 2014 Location: Toronto, Canada iTrader: (0)	All this shit is near irrelevant, the true cost is either a) alimony payments or if she earns more then b) not having full time access to your kids. Seen it happen to a couple of guys, decent men, they are BROKEN.
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Repoman Second Lieutenant 33 Rep 203 Posts Drives: 2017 Audi R8 V10+ Join Date: Sep 2012 Location: Downtown Los Angeles iTrader: (0)	Last gift I bought my girl was a watch for $250. Last time I bought flowers it was like $6.00. Honestly I think she appreciated the flowers more than the watch! lol
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qba335i First Lieutenant 410 Rep 329 Posts Drives: 335i Join Date: Feb 2011 Location: Chicago iTrader: (0)	The last "gift" that I bought for my GF (ex now) was ~$200 UPS shipping label that I used to ship all her stuff. Usually gifts are 100-1000. The more demanding/entitled they get the less money I spend. Girls are usually pretty sneaky so they research your salary range, car/house value... And adjust expectations accordingly. :
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EL Jeffe 5 Major 633 Rep 1,255 Posts Drives: CBR1000RR Join Date: Aug 2015 Location: Iowa iTrader: (0)	always same Costco $15.00
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11-17-2015, 03:06 PM	#43
Jorgem2009 Second Lieutenant 47 Rep 214 Posts Drives: 2015 aw bmw M4 6MT Join Date: Jul 2014 Location: Long beach,CA iTrader: (0)	thanks guys, this is for a business idea, and i love the honesty here hahaha
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