[CTinline-six]

Never. Only weak people cheat. If you want someone else, end the relationship.

[MKSixer]

Originally Posted by Jekyllmd

Is swinging considered cheating?

They're ready and willing...

[roastbeef]

no. i couldn't bear that guilt. 100% not worth it, plus its not in my character.

[chetrickerman]

Never cheated in any relationship. Horrible thing to do to someone.

[Darth One]

This is going to be like that “what do you do for a living” thread with 1000 joke posts and no serious ones

[******]

Wow, the relative silence is deafening. Obviously anyone not coming on here and posting that they have never cheated, HAVE CHEATED!!!

On the other hand, maybe the ones who post that they haven’t, HAVE!! Methinks they protest too much...

Lol, j/k...

I wonder how many significant others of posters here have access to this forum and know their handles...

[The0pportunist]

Originally Posted by ******

Wow, the relative silence is deafening. Obviously anyone not coming on here and posting that they have never cheated, HAVE CHEATED!!!

Lol, j/k...

Quite genius really.

Now they will leave the laptop open for the wife to read to mitigate any suspicion.

[******]

Originally Posted by The0pportunist

Quite genius really.

Now they will leave the laptop open for the wife to read to mitigate any suspicion.

The sneaky bastards!!

[1MOREMOD]

Originally Posted by ******

Wow, the relative silence is deafening. Obviously anyone not coming on here and posting that they have never cheated, HAVE CHEATED!!!

On the other hand, maybe the ones who post that they haven’t, HAVE!! Methinks they protest too much...

Lol, j/k...

I wonder how many significant others of posters here have access to this forum and know their handles...

I thought of this and since women will spin it no matter what, I thought no answer was best. Heres my assistant at work.

[Captain Blood]

Originally Posted by RAFiK - BMWClubUAE

It'll be interesting if you cheated on your present one with your prior, or vise versa!

Your name would be Newt, correct?

[RAFiK - BMWClubUAE]

Originally Posted by Real Dodger

Your name would be Newt, correct?

or a Real Dodger

[Captain Blood]

Originally Posted by RAFiK - BMWClubUAE

or a Real Dodger

Chicks like big bats

[King Rudi]

I'll jump in here.

I have cheated in the past. First wife. It was a bad situation. We went without sex for roughly 6 months. I tried, she wasn't interested. I remained faithful for the first 5 years of our relationship. Something happened to her, clueless as to what it was as our communication was not the greatest. All I ever heard was "I'm fine" when clearly she wasn't. She stopped taking care of herself, gained quite a bit of weight, wouldn't work, wouldn't clean our home, wouldn't do laundry or cook. I worked two jobs and she did nothing to participate in our relationship or to assist with daily duties of our home together. A sprite young attractive female showed interest and I declined on numerous attempts made by her. After a pretty big argument with the wife I tried to explain to her the situation. As I recall I also made the statement that "If I'm hungry and I'm asking for something to eat yet you choose not to share your food, I'll go to McDonalds"......and so I did. Ultimately our marriage ended but not due to my infidelity. Had I been the man that I am now, I would have made better decisions. We live/we learn.

Second marriage, she cheated......a lot. Once I caught wind of this, I decided to give her a taste of her own medicine......

Originally Posted by RAFiK - BMWClubUAE

It'll be interesting if you cheated on your present one with your prior, or vise versa!


An anonymous one perhaps

Ahem....cough. lol. I cheated on the second wife with the first after learning of her infidelity. Let me just say that I am so glad that I am not the same person I was back then. Thinking about this makes me feel like a terrible person and I have a hard time believing I even did this stuff.

My view now is that communication is key. If you have an open channel of communication and trust, you'd be surprised at what is considered acceptable. If a person wants to have sex with someone who is not their significant other, it should be expressed. If the other person in the relationship is not ok with it, the relationship should be over. In the event that the other person is ok with it.....then this turns into some of my bedtime stories that have not been written as of yet. I personally feel that the human ego creates many problems in society. Cheating is hurtful yes, but why? Is it because you have done something behind the back of the person whom you are supposed to create a sense of trust with? This is the biggest problem in my opinion....the distrust. The act of sex or having sex with someone else is simply an act. Being hurt because someone has lied or has chosen to put their want/desires before your trust is a valid reason for being hurt. If it is simply the fact that the act of sex has been encountered with another person, this is where I feel the ego is the problem. A person confident enough in their abilities in the bedroom should not have to deal with this aspect of this scenario.

I will say that in my experience in being cheated on I was dually hurt because of the infidelity and then by the notion that the other person wanted someone else. It's human nature to be attracted to people. It' embedded in the genetic code for men to spread their seed just as it is embedded for women to want to nurture, this is why little girls like to play will baby dolls and pretend being a mother. It's who we are. With all this being said, it is completely natural to be attracted to people who aren't our significant others.

Personally I feel swingers are on to something here.

As for the question about swingers being considered cheating. In my opinion it would only be considered cheating in the event that it was not communicated with the other person. From what I gather of the people I know that are swingers, it's typically done with the other spouse in the room. Most of the allure is watching their partner being pleased. Something like watching porn, but in person, with your favorite porn star - your spouse.

[twin fed]

Honestly I will say yes, but it was a long time ago and I was much younger. I was spending a lot of time with someone who was in a relationship too and they were going through the same problems that I was having in my relationship. Both of us did feel terrible about it and wound up ending it with both our significant others and were together for a while after that. But like I said I was much younger and have been with others since then and never cheated. Now I have been together with my wife for 12 years and married for almost 10 and never thought about it. When it's real you know.

[MKSixer]

Originally Posted by Now_Rudi

I'll jump in here.

I have cheated in the past. First wife. It was a bad situation. We went without sex for roughly 6 months. I tried, she wasn't interested. I remained faithful for the first 5 years of our relationship. Something happened to her, clueless as to what it was as our communication was not the greatest. All I ever heard was "I'm fine" when clearly she wasn't. She stopped taking care of herself, gained quite a bit of weight, wouldn't work, wouldn't clean our home, wouldn't do laundry or cook. I worked two jobs and she did nothing to participate in our relationship or to assist with daily duties of our home together. A sprite young attractive female showed interest and I declined on numerous attempts made by her. After a pretty big argument with the wife I tried to explain to her the situation. As I recall I also made the statement that "If I'm hungry and I'm asking for something to eat yet you choose not to share your food, I'll go to McDonalds"......and so I did. Ultimately our marriage ended but not due to my infidelity. Had I been the man that I am now, I would have made better decisions. We live/we learn.

Second marriage, she cheated......a lot. Once I caught wind of this, I decided to give her a taste of her own medicine......



Ahem....cough. lol. I cheated on the second wife with the first after learning of her infidelity. Let me just say that I am so glad that I am not the same person I was back then. Thinking about this makes me feel like a terrible person and I have a hard time believing I even did this stuff.

My view now is that communication is key. If you have an open channel of communication and trust, you'd be surprised at what is considered acceptable. If a person wants to have sex with someone who is not their significant other, it should be expressed. If the other person in the relationship is not ok with it, the relationship should be over. In the event that the other person is ok with it.....then this turns into some of my bedtime stories that have not been written as of yet. I personally feel that the human ego creates many problems in society. Cheating is hurtful yes, but why? Is it because you have done something behind the back of the person whom you are supposed to create a sense of trust with? This is the biggest problem in my opinion....the distrust. The act of sex or having sex with someone else is simply an act. Being hurt because someone has lied or has chosen to put their want/desires before your trust is a valid reason for being hurt. If it is simply the fact that the act of sex has been encountered with another person, this is where I feel the ego is the problem. A person confident enough in their abilities in the bedroom should not have to deal with this aspect of this scenario.

I will say that in my experience in being cheated on I was dually hurt because of the infidelity and then by the notion that the other person wanted someone else. It's human nature to be attracted to people. It' embedded in the genetic code for men to spread their seed just as it is embedded for women to want to nurture, this is why little girls like to play will baby dolls and pretend being a mother. It's who we are. With all this being said, it is completely natural to be attracted to people who aren't our significant others.

Personally I feel swingers are on to something here.

As for the question about swingers being considered cheating. In my opinion it would only be considered cheating in the event that it was not communicated with the other person. From what I gather of the people I know that are swingers, it's typically done with the other spouse in the room. Most of the allure is watching their partner being pleased. Something like watching porn, but in person, with your favorite porn star - your spouse.

.

[UncleWede]

Rosy doesn't count, right?







right?????

[Sara]

Is still cheating if the relationship is over in one mind but not the others? Some people can just not LET IT GO.

[******]

What if you’re “on a break”

Asking for a Friend.

[UncleWede]

LOL OP brings Sara back from the missing

[Captain Blood]

Originally Posted by UncleWede

Rosy doesn't count, right?







right?????

As long as you're not blind

[UncleWede]

Originally Posted by Real Dodger

As long as you're not blind

I seem to have late-stage RP though

[M3 Number 86]

I'd rather give you my ssn instead. Lol