[Juggs]

Originally Posted by ScBlacksunshine

For some reason, you look much older then 26, maybe it's the pic? Anyhow, she's cute, I am sure you'll be happy with her if and when you decide to pop the big question

lol yeah i usually get that. most ppl think im mid 30's... dunno why. anyhoo, i appreciate the props. i agree, she is absolutely beautiful and everytime im with her we find ourselves laughing and having a blast. here's another pic of her (im really toasted in this pic btw, lol)

[gonzo]

I have lived with a few women. 5 women longer term. Each and every time we made it around 4 years. Then....splat. Still friends with 4 of them. The other one disappeared in California some time ago. I think I have a timer for 4 or so years then it's time to move on. Don't be another Dallas statistic. The divorce rate here is among the highest in the nation, I believe. GOOD LUCK!
That bar looks familiar.

[Das M]

My wife and I have known each other for nearly 9 years. We have been together for about 7 of those years, and married for 3 years. We lived together, we lived seperate, I was in a fraternity, we pretty much covered all the variables that you could have. I don't regret living together first and then popping the question. You get to see how you will interact on a day to day basis, how you are when friends aren't around, all those good things. It gives you a chance to see what your normal everyday life will be like. There will just come a day when you know you are ready, when it comes, just ask her and everything will work out. Good luck and have fun. Just remember to listen, really listen...lol.

[F87LUV]

Originally Posted by DasBlitz

I disagree, I want to know how that girl acts when we live together. Not after I give her an expensive rock and spend a bunch of time.

Also at age 24 you can travel the world still. Shoot some people dont even leave the state they live in all their life.

LoL... here we go again. Hey NEWSFLASH******* I dont need your money***** Unless youre dating a fake b*tch. I dont see how shes going to change. If youre that uncertain that you need to live with her first then why even bother? If youre already spending 24-7 with each other and she goes home to sleep, the only thing youre missing are her daily habits. Not so much her personality. I know this isnt a battle im going to win. Im just giving you my perspective. My ex had major commitment issues so one day he says to me "lets buy a house and if it works out, maybe we'll even get married" Umm yeah right. Thats sounds convincing. Sounds like he just wanted someone to split with mortgage with him.

[Zephyr15]

Originally Posted by zimbim

Statistically speaking, couples that live together to "see how it goes" that eventually get married are more likely to get divorced. I know you guys are going to be all over my shit for this. But the couples that go into it with a let's see attitude are less likely to stick it out when the going gets tough.

You said it yourself, the problem isn't that people live together before marriage, it's that some people have a flippant attitude about their relationships.

[omg516]

I just popped the question about 3 weeks ago and I'm 26. Granted she's 26 also, I figure I'll be almost 27 when we're married and 27 is not really that young. They say life doesn't really start until you get married and you don't really grow up until you have kids. It sounds like you're ready to grow up, if she is also then go for it.

[Juggs]

Originally Posted by omg516

I just popped the question about 3 weeks ago and I'm 26. Granted she's 26 also, I figure I'll be almost 27 when we're married and 27 is not really that young. They say life doesn't really start until you get married and you don't really grow up until you have kids. It sounds like you're ready to grow up, if she is also then go for it.

well i dunno if i am exactly ready to grow up ( i still love to go out with friends and bar hop till 4am) , but I am really ready to settle down my love life.

[Juggs]

Originally Posted by gonzo

I have lived with a few women. 5 women longer term. Each and every time we made it around 4 years. Then....splat. Still friends with 4 of them. The other one disappeared in California some time ago. I think I have a timer for 4 or so years then it's time to move on. Don't be another Dallas statistic. The divorce rate here is among the highest in the nation, I believe. GOOD LUCK!
That bar looks familiar.

what was it around the 4yr mark that made it fall apart?? My last gf and i lasted till 4 yrs and when she moved in, a couple of months later it was over. although in hindsight, i did not ever feel the way i feel now about her. she was someone i never took around my friends and certainly never saw myself proposing to anytime soon. i kept feeling like i was needing to find out more about her.

with my current gf i am a trillion times happier and more satisfied.

[gonzo]

Satisfied? Well that is another story. My picks are, unfortunately, usually interested in their satisfaction and not mine. Hell, I just need one who can do a 50/50 split. Dallas women, I'll tell ya...

[picus]

Live apart for a bit, sew some oats, then if you are still into eachother, get married.

[GraphiteBrawler]

I'd say wait a little longer, but do it before you guys move in together, a good percentage of marriages where people move in before marriage fail, the average for marriage before moving is slightly better.

[DasBlitz]

Originally Posted by ZGirl4U

LoL... here we go again. Hey NEWSFLASH******* I dont need your money***** Unless youre dating a fake b*tch. I dont see how shes going to change. If youre that uncertain that you need to live with her first then why even bother? If youre already spending 24-7 with each other and she goes home to sleep, the only thing youre missing are her daily habits. Not so much her personality. I know this isnt a battle im going to win. Im just giving you my perspective. My ex had major commitment issues so one day he says to me "lets buy a house and if it works out, maybe we'll even get married" Umm yeah right. Thats sounds convincing. Sounds like he just wanted someone to split with mortgage with him.

Woah there. I merely stated something. And the whole dont need your money? Um, most people get rings when they get married. When did I say other purchases?

Also that uncertain? Or maybe some people like to be fully sure get use to it. No big deal. I am pretty sure having sex before marriage is a big no-no to some and probably statistically causes more divorces for some people.

You cant base your marriage off of statistics.

Originally Posted by picus

Live apart for a bit, sew some oats, then if you are still into eachother, get married.

He said he already did that and is happy. So seems he has everything done right so far.

Originally Posted by GraphiteBrawler

I'd say wait a little longer, but do it before you guys move in together, a good percentage of marriages where people move in before marriage fail, the average for marriage before moving is slightly better.

I really need to know where you guys get this stuff? Also you said slightly better. That slight bit is probably because they already have a home together maybe even already have a kid or kid on the way. For a slight amount that will cause them to stick it out.

You have to look deeper into statistics and not take them for their face value.

[F87LUV]

Originally Posted by DasBlitz

Woah there. I merely stated something. And the whole dont need your money? Um, most people get rings when they get married. When did I say other purchases?

Also that uncertain? Or maybe some people like to be fully sure get use to it. No big deal. I am pretty sure having sex before marriage is a big no-no to some and probably statistically causes more divorces for some people.

You cant base your marriage off of statistics.

I was kidding but you didnt just say ring you said expensive ring which leads me to the notion that you have this whole "that golddigger aint gonna get my money" kinda approach.

[phantom330]

I'd say if you feel it go for it. I'm 27 and just got married in the fall, my wife is also the same age. However, we did live together for a year before we got married, which I would highly recommend doing before you buy the ring. That way you can be 100% sure you're right for each other. I've known people that were really in love, and then they moved in together and things went downhill fast.

[gsxrpaul]

I'd like to see all these statistics where living together prior to marriage makes you more likely to divorce. I have been with my wife for a total of almost 11 years. We were together for 2 years, then moved in together, then waited damn near 7 more years before we got married. Still going strong today.

[Boostedg35]

dude as long as your happy thats all that matters.. and if she gives you head and letts you PITB!!!!!!!!!!! marry her

[darkcloud]

Originally Posted by Juggs

wow congrats and good luck! That's awesome... 3 years dude. I would hold out for that but like i said, deep inside me i just look at her and i just know in my heart that its "right".

Thanks bro, I'm excited. But like I said it prolly would have been more like 2 years but due to shitty family luck on my part its 3 years.

Also shes a cute lookin girl. I say snatch her up, the sooner the better. If your feeling in the mood now then I say go for it and don't look back. Besides if you order the ring tomorrow it usually takes about a month to get the ring if not longer if you go the custom route.

Heres a pic of my girl and I...

[Revlis]

If you love her, go for it.

I was 24 when I got married and the wife and I are happy as can be...

Keep it simple, communicate openly, and try not to lay out some road map for the future, plans are good, but don't get carried away with a 5 year plan or anything silly. Enjoy life, be happy...

Never forget that marriage takes a lot of work. Congrats.

[gonzo]

Originally Posted by Boostedg35

dude as long as your happy thats all that matters.. and if she gives you head and letts you PITB!!!!!!!!!!! marry her

Classy.

[dcaero]

i got married about a year ago when i was 22, and so was my wife. We had been dating for 5 years and both just graduated college at the time.

An interesting piece of advice that my wife's grandma gave us was that "there is going to be times when you make each other miserable, but your going to have to be miserable together."

good luck bro, enjoy life!

[Das M]

Originally Posted by Boostedg35

dude as long as your happy thats all that matters.. and if she gives you head and letts you PITB!!!!!!!!!!! marry her

(sorry, i know its bad, but i cannot stop laughing cause my buddy said this one time in college to us)

[OhhaiAlex]

If you feel its right, go for it.

9 months only?.... I been with my BF for 5 years....no marriage tho. Still too young. :rant: hahaha