Would you ever...?

fokus45 · 11-03-2011, 04:37 PM

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Originally Posted by BMW E90

Seems like the majority of people here voted no. Some voted yes though and I'm interested in hearing from those folks as to why.

I voted yes because I have taken somebody back. I don't regret it either.

Gregxi · 11-04-2011, 09:51 AM

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Originally Posted by skinnycow

I don't know.... she might turn lesbian after meeting me :P

Sorry couldn't convince the wife, but seeing that you have my address for secret Santa feel free to send nudes and a short video, that might push her over the edge

SpmnE9zero · 11-04-2011, 10:40 AM

History does and will repeat itself.
If an individual has it in them to cheat, given the opportunity, they will do it again.

The1 · 11-04-2011, 01:10 PM

i think this is a pretty loaded question, and many people have hit on strong points.

In one relationship a girl told me she cheated just to see how i reacted. Needless to say, if she had cheated, she wouldn't have ever seen me again. (i ended the relationship anyways, she turned out to be super crazy, not just crazy...)

another girl kissed another guy and came to talk to me the next day in tears full of regret, this was when i was much younger. I nearly broke it off, but fully respected the fact that she was honest with me and didn't wait to talk to me about it. I forgave her after a few days realizing it was "only a kiss" and that she cared enough about me to face up to her mistake and tell me. She both broke and re-enforced my trust at the same time. We broke up a few years later to explore life, and are likely to get back together and start a new life together after 7 years apart. (was a young relationship first time around but never stopped loving eachother)

If i were married and cheated on in the first year or two of marriage, i would assume that we got married too soon and she was never ready for it. I would probably push for a divorce. If at 15 years and a full family, i would understand she was committed to me, and made a mistake that she regrets (at least hope) and I would approach the situation with an open mind and make my decision based on the state of the relationship. If things were already bad, i would grab her suit case and have it waiting for her when she got home. If it were a 1 time thing and she regretted it fully and had little control over events, I would take more time to consider and find out the full story before making any decisions.

trust is hard to earn, but easy to lose. We often let our emotions lead our actions, I like to step back from a situation and let some of the immediate emotions pass and let my brain and heart make the decisions together, if they don't co-ordinate, something is wrong.

If i were to ever let it happen once, and it happened a second time.... they would be facing a firing squad.... but that's if i accept that it happened the first time.

Wakka · 11-04-2011, 01:48 PM

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Originally Posted by Gregxi

Sorry couldn't convince the wife, but seeing that you have my address for secret Santa feel free to send nudes and a short video, that might push her over the edge

lets be fucking honest... your wife would never see that video

Gregxi · 11-04-2011, 02:06 PM

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Originally Posted by Wakka

lets be fucking honest... your wife would never see that video

Let's be honest, what the fuck was I thinking when I asked for a short video?
I need an extremely long video, one that shows the art of scissoring and other important maneuvers.

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The1 Major General 76 Rep 5,114 Posts Drives: white 135 Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: KW ontario/vancouver temporarily iTrader: (0)	i think this is a pretty loaded question, and many people have hit on strong points. In one relationship a girl told me she cheated just to see how i reacted. Needless to say, if she had cheated, she wouldn't have ever seen me again. (i ended the relationship anyways, she turned out to be super crazy, not just crazy...) another girl kissed another guy and came to talk to me the next day in tears full of regret, this was when i was much younger. I nearly broke it off, but fully respected the fact that she was honest with me and didn't wait to talk to me about it. I forgave her after a few days realizing it was "only a kiss" and that she cared enough about me to face up to her mistake and tell me. She both broke and re-enforced my trust at the same time. We broke up a few years later to explore life, and are likely to get back together and start a new life together after 7 years apart. (was a young relationship first time around but never stopped loving eachother) If i were married and cheated on in the first year or two of marriage, i would assume that we got married too soon and she was never ready for it. I would probably push for a divorce. If at 15 years and a full family, i would understand she was committed to me, and made a mistake that she regrets (at least hope) and I would approach the situation with an open mind and make my decision based on the state of the relationship. If things were already bad, i would grab her suit case and have it waiting for her when she got home. If it were a 1 time thing and she regretted it fully and had little control over events, I would take more time to consider and find out the full story before making any decisions. trust is hard to earn, but easy to lose. We often let our emotions lead our actions, I like to step back from a situation and let some of the immediate emotions pass and let my brain and heart make the decisions together, if they don't co-ordinate, something is wrong. If i were to ever let it happen once, and it happened a second time.... they would be facing a firing squad.... but that's if i accept that it happened the first time.
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