[ASAP]

Originally Posted by rebekahb

It's kind of like a lot of things in today's times. We have so much at our fingertips and everything's right in front of you. The options are free flowing. If I just do one more maybe he/she will be the one (not saying anyone should settle). The problem is that mindset never leads to fulfillment. You'll always be searching.

It reminds me of shopping. I go online and scroll and scroll. I find something I like and then my mind says shit, what if I like something better 2 pages over and I don't go see. Next thing you know I've gone 10 pages because I thought I would miss something but I end up back at the item I liked early on.

You shouldn't need to be with someone you don't want to be... that's a terrible idea... however you do need to "settle"... that's how marriage works or frankyl any relationship lol

[QUOTE=Lady Jane;27272982]

Originally Posted by M5theonlyone

Stop paying for everything. You were probably a victim of a free loader. As soon as they hear the word 'commitment', they disappear.

Nothing wrong with just dating. Not every woman wants to get married, have babies, do your laundry and cooking and be a mink in the bedroom, even if they are not in the mood.

If you have followed this thread from the beginning you will have read my views on the subject.

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When you say "just dating"... i hope you don't think I meet up with girls to just kick it with them lol... I have quite a few friends and not really interested in any buddies or just chillin.

[nyalpine90]

Originally Posted by aliiin

Just ended a 4 month relationship.

Cliffs:
She had a pyscho mom and was not very independent. I would rant if anyone is interested.

Story 1: She is a pharmacist and her mom lives with her. She lies to her mom about working 5 days a week when she works 4 to "get away from her mom." It's called her ME day and she dresses up like she's going to work and leaves the house so her mom doesn't know and thinks she's going to work but she does other shit on this fake day off. The kicker: she's 38. This was mind blowing to me. Like... what in the actual fuck?

continue please

[nyalpine90]

Originally Posted by ASAP

So... real weird scenario here if anyone can chime in-

Went on 5 dates with a girl, both had a great time... even both parties confirmed it.

I always paid for everything... Saw her Saturday... hung out until late and again both confirmed a good time... i noticed however that I hadn't heard anything from her for a few days after... seemed weird considering we saw each other 5 times and she always wanted to hang out again.

Today I text her a little more seriously... and simply say what is this between us because i find it odd I haven't heard anything from you... the response i get is you're a great guy and i've had a great time and you deserve honesty but I can't commit...

LOL WTF...

You mean, you couldn't tell me this the 2nd time or even after the 1st? But whenever I wanted to see you, you did too and I made my intentions clear from the get go... you suddenly realize this?

Alright... some give me thoughts here-

Was she looking to just have a good time?
Dating others? (this is my thought... again apps give to many options so this is my thought)
Completely confused?

she is having great time because you are dishing out $$.
she is free loader and using you.
has she contacted you/message you first???

[Sara]

Originally Posted by Lady Jane

Dating:

Expectations vs Reality.

This!

[Joekerr]

Originally Posted by Lady Jane

Dating:

Expectations vs Reality.

Originally Posted by Sara504

This!

Honestly, my takeaway from this video is that you are basically saying dating in reality is just a lot of pole / shaft work....

[Sara]

Originally Posted by Joekerr

Honestly, my takeaway from this video is that you are basically saying dating in reality is just a lot of pole / shaft work....

It's not even that exciting for me in 2021........

[dinonz]

Originally Posted by Joekerr

Honestly, my takeaway from this video is that you are basically saying dating in reality is just a lot of pole / shaft work....

My takeaway is that it's not worth the effort.

[Tambohamilton]

My takeaway is that it could be pretty fun(ny), but you might not get what you came for.

[nyalpine90]

my takeway is that squirrel is dumb, repeatedly try climbing. just chop it down

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by Joekerr

Honestly, my takeaway from this video is that you are basically saying dating in reality is just a lot of pole / shaft work....

I was going to say sliding on poles in order to get a free meal.

[Sara]

Originally Posted by King Rudi

I was going to say sliding on poles in order to get a free meal.

No putting out on the first date. Don't take her out again if she offers the goods that easily. You'll just be a hotdog in a hallway.

[aliiin]

Originally Posted by aliiin

Just ended a 4 month relationship.

Cliffs:
She had a pyscho mom and was not very independent. I would rant if anyone is interested.

Story 1: She is a pharmacist and her mom lives with her. She lies to her mom about working 5 days a week when she works 4 to "get away from her mom." It's called her ME day and she dresses up like she's going to work and leaves the house so her mom doesn't know and thinks she's going to work but she does other shit on this fake day off. The kicker: she's 38. This was mind blowing to me. Like... what in the actual fuck?

Quoting for background info

A little about me: I'm 32, really chill, laid back, have lots of patience, and am very easy to get along with.

Story 2: The Texas Polar Vortex Conundrum

She books a hotel very near her work in case of icy roads for 4 days during the winter storm last week. She tells me on day 2 of staying at the hotel that she's checking out of the hotel, coming over and staying with me. Of course, mom doesn't know she is coming over. Mom doesn't even know about me (lol?). She has to hide things from her mom and make sure "there's no suspicion" when she makes up lies to her. She's 38 years old, not 15, like wtf?

I've been using a generator at my house because there might be rolling blackouts and turn off my main breaker. I also don't want to pay $9000 per megawatt hour when it's usually $30 per megawatt hour. I tell her the situation and that she might not like it if she comes here. It might be cold and there are a lot of uncertainties. She acknowledges it, says she wants to see me, checks out of her hotel and decides to come stay with me for the next 2 days.

She gets here, complains it's cold, gets upset and cries. I ask her why she's upset at me when I told her before she came here what the situation was. She could have just stayed at her hotel. She says she's upset at the situation and not at me. I told her she knew the situation beforehand, so why are you upset at all?

Then, she says I'm never emotionally supportive and I don't understand her feelings. I also told her I would put my foot down with controlling, manipulative mom and tell her to fuck off because she's an adult and financially independent from mom. She should be living her life as an adult, not as a 15 year old kid. She says I'm judging her mom and not being supportive. It's like I'm her therapist and raising a child at the same time.

Am I out of line here with my logical thinking?

[Alfisti]

Fucking run. What have I said about irrational/crazy, this woman nothing but issues.

[cmyx6go]

Originally Posted by aliiin

Am I out of line here with my logical thinking?

RUN - as fast as you can......And don't look back.

[aliiin]

I'll type up some more stories later, but yes red flags all around!

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by Sara504

No putting out on the first date. Don't take her out again if she offers the goods that easily. You'll just be a hotdog in a hallway.

My comment was only a joke, but this is wildly inaccurate. Most all women say this. Most all women end up offering at least part of the goods on the first date. Most all women say, "I never do this on a first date." Almost 30 years of experience in this area. There have been some that I have dated for long periods of time, there was two that I married and then there were some that I called the next day because it was in my best interest to......then there were many who left directly after that I never saw or spoke to again.

Also, the hotdog in a hallway comment....inaccurate as well. In my experiences, these women do exist, but these conditions were not created by excessive use of that area; more so born this way.

[Sara]

Originally Posted by King Rudi

My comment was only a joke, but this is wildly inaccurate. Most all women say this. Most all women end up offering at least part of the goods on the first date. Most all women say, "I never do this on a first date." Almost 30 years of experience in this area. There have been some that I have dated for long periods of time, there was two that I married and then there were some that I called the next day because it was in my best interest to......then there were many who left directly after that I never saw or spoke to again.

Also, the hotdog in a hallway comment....inaccurate as well. In my experiences, these women do exist, but these conditions were not created by excessive use of that area; more so born this way.

The hotdog in a hallway comment was a joke! Stop being so serious in OT

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by aliiin

Quoting for background info

A little about me: I'm 32, really chill, laid back, have lots of patience, and am very easy to get along with.

Story 2: The Texas Polar Vortex Conundrum

She books a hotel very near her work in case of icy roads for 4 days during the winter storm last week. She tells me on day 2 of staying at the hotel that she's checking out of the hotel, coming over and staying with me. Of course, mom doesn't know she is coming over. Mom doesn't even know about me (lol?). She has to hide things from her mom and make sure "there's no suspicion" when she makes up lies to her. She's 38 years old, not 15, like wtf?

I've been using a generator at my house because there might be rolling blackouts and turn off my main breaker. I also don't want to pay $9000 per megawatt hour when it's usually $30 per megawatt hour. I tell her the situation and that she might not like it if she comes here. It might be cold and there are a lot of uncertainties. She acknowledges it, says she wants to see me, checks out of her hotel and decides to come stay with me for the next 2 days.

She gets here, complains it's cold, gets upset and cries. I ask her why she's upset at me when I told her before she came here what the situation was. She could have just stayed at her hotel. She says she's upset at the situation and not at me. I told her she knew the situation beforehand, so why are you upset at all?

Then, she says I'm never emotionally supportive and I don't understand her feelings. I also told her I would put my foot down with controlling, manipulative mom and tell her to fuck off because she's an adult and financially independent from mom. She should be living her life as an adult, not as a 15 year old kid. She says I'm judging her mom and not being supportive. It's like I'm her therapist and raising a child at the same time.

Am I out of line here with my logical thinking?

You should have unprotected sex with this one, then marry her after the baby is born without a prenup.

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by Sara504

The hotdog in a hallway comment was a joke! Stop being so serious in OT

Well, I made a joke and you told me not to date women who put out on the first date.

Women are funny in this regard. Women will literally sleep with a guy on the first date, then tell other men not to date women who sleep with men on the first date. If a woman tells a man to stay away from another women because she is easy...guess what, we are not going to avoid them. Basically the same thing as telling a dog not to eat a steak, that was dropped on the floor, because it isn't prepared sous vide. That dog doesn't give a shit and thinks the steak is delicious.

[Sara]

Originally Posted by King Rudi

Well, I made a joke and you told me not to date women who put out on the first date.

Women are funny in this regard. Women will literally sleep with a guy on the first date, then tell other men not to date women who sleep with men on the first date. If a woman tells a man to stay away from another women because she is easy...guess what, we are not going to avoid them. Basically the same thing as telling a dog not to eat a steak, that was dropped on the floor, because it isn't prepared sous vide. That dog doesn't give a shit and thinks the steak is delicious.

Yes, I did quote you directly but my comment was more of a catch all intended for everyone, not specifically you.

I need to get off this forum and pack Too stressed to think straight ATM. I hate moving.

[FizzyElf]

[Sara]

Originally Posted by FizzyElf

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