[Sara]

Originally Posted by fiveohwblow

I’ve a friend that thinks this way. Quite vein, very self centered and worse, wholly unaware he is this way. May be a similar person, may not.

I feel like it’s in poor taste in his part. We haven’t met yet. Been texting for about 2 weeks. He’s a surgeon so I know his schedule can be a bit hectic. He doesn’t have the typical 9-5 like I do. We text every day. He suggested on Wednesday that we meet up this weekend in the evening for dinner and drinks. I said that I’d like that. We never set an official time. He didn’t respond to my text on Friday. Barely texted me yesterday, and then morning sends me the above referenced text. Just no. Sorry, have other plans now. He can try again next weekend, if I’m free.

[fiveohwblow]

Originally Posted by Sara504

I feel like it’s in poor taste in his part. We haven’t met yet. Been texting for about 2 weeks. He’s a surgeon so I know his schedule can be a bit hectic. He doesn’t have the typical 9-5 like I do. We text every day. He suggested on Wednesday that we meet up this weekend in the evening for dinner and drinks. I said that I’d like that. We never set an official time. He didn’t respond to my text on Friday. Barely texted me yesterday, and then morning sends me the above referenced text. Just no. Sorry, have other plans now. He can try again next weekend, if I’m free.

With more context, this sounds more like something or someone took precedent and that “thing” is now gone.

[Sara]

Originally Posted by fiveohwblow

With more context, this sounds more like something or someone took precedent and that “thing” is now gone.

He says he was with his friends. Which I believe him as he lives an hour away and has a condo in New Orleans to escape the small town where he lives. He comes to New Orleans often enough to purchase a second home here. But it's the fact that he asked to take me to dinner, so I made sure I didn't have plans Friday or Saturday night, and now he wants to see me before he heads out this afternoon. Like no, you're not going to try to see me for the first time last minute. I have plans with my girlfriend to get drinks this afternoon and other shit I need to get done this morning, since I had previously cleared my schedule. It's probably an oversight on his part, but he's just going to have to wait to meet me, if we still continue to text this week.

I'm not wrong for saying no, right?

[fiveohwblow]

Originally Posted by Sara504

He says he was with his friends. Which I believe him as he lives an hour away and has a condo in New Orleans to escape the small town where he lives. He comes to New Orleans often enough to purchase a second home here. But it's the fact that he asked to take me to dinner, so I made sure I didn't have plans Friday or Saturday night, and now he wants to see me before he heads out this afternoon. Like no, you're not going to try to see for the first time last minute. I have plans with my girlfriend to get drinks this afternoon and other shit I need to get done this weekend since I had previously cleared my schedule. It's probably an oversight on his part, but he's just going to have to wait to meet me, if we still continue to text this week.

I'm not wrong for saying no, right?

I don’t think you’re wrong at all. My perspective is all relationships, especially romantic ones, require some level of sacrifice from all parties. Seems in this scenerio from the insight we have, it is only you who sacrificed.

[andrewmr]

Originally Posted by Sara504

He says he was with his friends. Which I believe him as he lives an hour away and has a condo in New Orleans to escape the small town where he lives. He comes to New Orleans often enough to purchase a second home here. But it's the fact that he asked to take me to dinner, so I made sure I didn't have plans Friday or Saturday night, and now he wants to see me before he heads out this afternoon. Like no, you're not going to try to see me for the first time last minute. I have plans with my girlfriend to get drinks this afternoon and other shit I need to get done this morning, since I had previously cleared my schedule. It's probably an oversight on his part, but he's just going to have to wait to meet me, if we still continue to text this week.

I'm not wrong for saying no, right?

Not wrong at all.

You might even tell him you'd love to, but when he asked you to have dinner you moved everything from Friday and Saturday night into Sunday ....

[MKSixer]

Originally Posted by Sara504

He says he was with his friends. Which I believe him as he lives an hour away and has a condo in New Orleans to escape the small town where he lives. He comes to New Orleans often enough to purchase a second home here. But it's the fact that he asked to take me to dinner, so I made sure I didn't have plans Friday or Saturday night, and now he wants to see me before he heads out this afternoon. Like no, you're not going to try to see me for the first time last minute. I have plans with my girlfriend to get drinks this afternoon and other shit I need to get done this morning, since I had previously cleared my schedule. It's probably an oversight on his part, but he's just going to have to wait to meet me, if we still continue to text this week.

I'm not wrong for saying no, right?

He's a surgeon and he lives out of town. It's not unreasonable that he was tied up with friends. You aren't wrong for saying no...no one is available all the time.

[Chihuahua]

Originally Posted by fiveohwblow

I don’t think you’re wrong at all. My perspective is all relationships, especially romantic ones, require some level of sacrifice from all parties.

This. People make time for the things they want to make time for.

Originally Posted by Sara504

He can try again next weekend, if I’m free.

If you agree to do this you are condoning said behavior. My $.02, do as you please.

[Sara]

Originally Posted by Chihuahua

This. People make time for the things they want to make time for.



If you agree to do this you are condoning said behavior. My $.02, do as you please.

Already deleted him out of my phone. He's too slow

[Sara]

This dude's Bumble profile reads:

Prompt: Perfect first date
His answer: Steak and BJ

Prompt: Turn offs
His answer: Squirters


Like WTF........ how do these guys ever expect someone to swipe right

[dinonz]

Originally Posted by Sara504

This dude's Bumble profile reads:

Prompt: Perfect first date
His answer: Steak and BJ

Prompt: Turn offs
His answer: Squirters


Like WTF........ how do these guys ever expect someone to swipe right

I think it's what they call the spray and pray technique. If a guy on a dating site sends 100 messages to women saying "wanna fuck?" all it takes is one to say yes and he's achieved his goal - and probably pissed off 99 other women who get sick of the junk they receive. But the one who said yes means he and other men will keep trying it. A friend at university said he's done it in person at a night club - approached small groups of women, chatted briefly, and then asked "anyone want a fuck?" - he said he's been slapped and had drinks tossed on him, but he's also left with a fair number of them too.

This guy is just being honest up front. Probably a turn off to 99% of women, but one woman will be hungry and horny and decide "why the fuck not" and then he gets what he wants.

[Sara]

Originally Posted by dinonz

I think it's what they call the spray and pray technique. If a guy on a dating site sends 100 messages to women saying "wanna fuck?" all it takes is one to say yes and he's achieved his goal - and probably pissed off 99 other women who get sick of the junk they receive. But the one who said yes means he and other men will keep trying it. A friend at university said he's done it in person at a night club - approached small groups of women, chatted briefly, and then asked "anyone want a fuck?" - he said he's been slapped and had drinks tossed on him, but he's also left with a fair number of them too.

This guy is just being honest up front. Probably a turn off to 99% of women, but one woman will be hungry and horny and decide "why the fuck not" and then he gets what he wants.

And then there are the ones with charming profiles and pictures, you meet them and they just want to fuck. Why are guys such fuck boys?! I’m over it. Get a flesh light.

[dinonz]

Originally Posted by Sara504

And then there are the ones with charming profiles and pictures, you meet them and they just want to fuck. Why are guys such fuck boys?! I’m over it. Get a flesh light.

Ah yes - the sad life of the good looking guy. They're fuckboys because they know they can. Same thing - chat to 100 women who are all swooning over their photo, meet them, and one will agree. Score!

Women "don't want players" but fall for them all the time because they want good looking charming guys - who know they can play women. It's a vicious cycle.

[fiveohwblow]

Originally Posted by dinonz

Ah yes - the sad life of the good looking guy. They're fuckboys because they know they can. Same thing - chat to 100 women who are all swooning over their photo, meet them, and one will agree. Score!

Women "don't want players" but fall for them all the time because they want good looking charming guys - who know they can play women. It's a vicious cycle.

And the argument from the other side:

“Who do all women just want to talk and talk and talk and....”

Rather than lament the opposite, embrace it or your lifetime supply of batteries and pints of ice cream. We are both programmed and can alter it some, but our primitive nature will always win out.

[Sara]

Originally Posted by dinonz

Ah yes - the sad life of the good looking guy. They're fuckboys because they know they can. Same thing - chat to 100 women who are all swooning over their photo, meet them, and one will agree. Score!

Women "don't want players" but fall for them all the time because they want good looking charming guys - who know they can play women. It's a vicious cycle.

He was better looking in his photos. It’s not fair to post a photo from 2016 as your main profile picture. There needs to be a 6 month limit, especially since 2020 and people (not me) have gained the “quarantine 15.”

[dinonz]

Originally Posted by Sara504

He was better looking in his photos. It’s not fair to post a photo from 2016 as your main profile picture. There needs to be a 6 month limit, especially since 2020 and people (not me) have gained the “quarantine 15.”

I've been told I look better than my photos but that wouldn't be hard

[Sara]

Originally Posted by dinonz

I've been told I look better than my photos but that wouldn't be hard

Most guys actually do look better than their photos. 99% of them

[dinonz]

Originally Posted by Sara504

Most guys actually do look better than their photos. 99% of them

Damn. I thought it was just me

[Sara]

Originally Posted by dinonz

Damn. I thought it was just me

Trust me, you don’t want to catfish a woman. Chance of sex would be 0%

[dinonz]

Originally Posted by Sara504

Trust me, you don’t want to catfish a woman. Chance of sex would be 0%

That's about my chance anyway

[Sara]

Originally Posted by dinonz

That's about my chance anyway

Have you tried any of our previous suggestions? It's been about what? 6 weeks? Any lucky ladies yet?

[dinonz]

Originally Posted by Sara504

Have you tried any of our previous suggestions? It's been about what? 6 weeks? Any lucky ladies yet?

Right now I am just doing what I can to keep myself alive and sane. I feel like I have to protect my company from the insanely stupid people we have employed and that's taking all my energy and sucking the life out of me.

I'm only on here for comic relief.

[Sara]

Originally Posted by dinonz

Right now I am just doing what I can to keep myself alive and sane. I feel like I have to protect my company from the insanely stupid people we have employed and that's taking all my energy and sucking the life out of me.

I'm only on here for comic relief.

No bueno. Well hopefully you at least got your crazy lady friend to hit the road