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      09-28-2011, 05:37 PM   #67
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Ur dating the wrong girls or ur a wuss...married 17 yrs..together 20...sex at least 5 of 7 days/week and we have 3 kids
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What are you putting in her cereal?

You must know it's very unusual to have that kind of sex frequency after 20yrs, especially after all the crap you deal with/see at work.
No, the better question is how old are the kids, when the kid hit their teen years you are hosted, they stay up late and you spend time running them around to their activities so you have no time or energy left.

This, or the sex is totally boring since you do not want the kids to hear it, and if you do not care if your kids hear you have something wrong with you.

Been together with my wife for 30 yrs married 23, and we use to go at all the time too and as the kids aged the time and energy you have for anything extra declines. Can not wait until they are out of the house.
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I'm one of those weak guys. I find "strong" chicks, butch, and unattractive. I'm into girly girls, who are concerned about how they look, and are soft, and tender. No GI Jane for me please.
A girl can be a girly girl and at the same time independent and strong minded. Can't just assume they are butch.
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A girl can be a girly girl and at the same time independent and strong minded. Can't just assume they are butch.
Couldn't have phrased it better. Hopefully this thread becomes more active.
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Been with my wife 5years been married 3. Sex 4days out the week. 2 kids under 5 years of age. Fuck yeah we are bossed up......maybe
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Relationships can be pretty bitchin sometimes.

Ive been in one for the better part of 3 years and she gets me kickass stuff like for my birthday in april she got me a pair of FIA approved Sparco gloves. (I looked it up and she spent $200 on me WTF! )

So it eventually evens out. But thats also because I make her pay for shit when I feel like ive been taking all the cash hits lately.

We have a mutual understanding about money, which helps


2 engineer's income is great for cashflow. She buys the stuff that she wants with her cash and I buy the stuff that I want and we treat the other to nights out in the middle of it + sex nearly every night = good way to be.
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Single and happy as of now, so why change?
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Like how you slowly shifted the blame for the failure of the relationship, solely on the guy. Keep it up, and try not to feel too bad, as the birthdays start piling up.
yeah youre right. I dont know what I want right now. Im still young(ish), At least thats how I feel as of today. It all may change tomorrow.
I think it normal not to know what you want. Relationship are complicated and sometimes the longer you are married the more you and your partner change. Sometime it good and other times bad.

What do you prefer. A good guy that is into you, but you not as much or you into a bad guy that is really not into you as much as you are.
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I think it normal not to know what you want. Relationship are complicated and sometimes the longer you are married the more you and your partner change. Sometime it good and other times bad.

What do you prefer. A good guy that is into you, but you not as much or you into a bad guy that is really not into you as much as you are.
That was confusing as shyt.

On a side note, it may be normal to not know what you want in a relationship, but that should also mean do not try to get into a serious relationship.
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That was confusing as shyt.

On a side note, it may be normal to not know what you want in a relationship, but that should also mean do not try to get into a serious relationship.
I usually don't know what I want/get bored of them, but there is always one where you know what you want, I guess that one would be the keeper!
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Well I live in CA ran into a few couples who never married, officially but lived together and some actually had kids together. CA is common law state so the fact you are not married does not save your ass from loosing it all. Hell, Gene Simmons is actually going to get married because he could loose it all if he does not married his woman, you know she will take it all.

I am not sure if you indefinitely date someone and never let them move in or put cloths in your house can they claim common law marriage. One thing i heard is if you present yourself to the public and friends as being married that could cause you problems.

Can you get the benefits of both worlds and not lose your money.
Epic fail in form of information. First Cali is a community property state and no fault divorce. 50/50 split unless you can negotiate something else. The laws guiding awards is a bit harsh but all comes under a formula that any family law lawyer can provide.

If Gene Simmons and for that matter Shannon Tweed did not have pre nups or binding contracts in place they are both fools and I highly doubt he got in the financial position he is in by being foolish. It's all about TV ratings and not true life.

Common law marriage is defined differently state by state and not recognized in all states. It Cali it requires more than co-habitation to legalize it, they combination of submitting yourselves as common law couples is often one of the key issues but keeping personal articles at someones house hardly satisfies the courts.

Yes you can have your cake and eat it too. It can be in the form of marriage or by just living together but does require a fair bit of maturity and understanding. I was married for 21 years, two kids. Was diagnosed with a long term illness, wife met someone else and left. She got half of the assets except those I/we negotiated otherwise completely legal and binding in California(she tried to reverse some it years later when she pissed away her money and I did not die). I have been with my GF/Wifey (could be considered common law) for just over 7 years. We own a home together and other properties seperately. We split everything right down the middle on the home we own (I pay all bills on even months her on odd months it's in a contract). We have absolutely 0 issues we have the same general interests and when they do not mesh we support each other in their interests. Absolutely perfect situation but I am 53. We wont get married unless something like health issues force it because it works for us. No reason to change a thing.
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One more question, would you guys ever date a girl that already has a child?
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One more question, would you guys ever date a girl that already has a child?
I have strong feelings about that. Being as if my dad hadnt I wouldnt be here now
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I have strong feelings about that. Being as if my dad hadnt I wouldnt be here now
wow. pretty heavy right there.
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One more question, would you guys ever date a girl that already has a child?
It is baggage but I tend to look at the whole picture not just one aspect. Plusses better outweigh negatives. Child isn't a definite no but it's definitely a consideration that you have to weigh heavily upon. I feel you shouldn't date someone with a child unless you are willing to put the child into your life as well. Most people aren't ready for that.
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One more question, would you guys ever date a girl that already has a child?
I cant stand kids, so no.
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      10-04-2011, 05:06 PM   #84
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Lonely when single, or miserable when you're married.

If you're anything like me, being single is great for awhile - then you start realizing it's too much work to line something up every week. The easier it is the less satisfying it is. I find I like a challenge.
Then, when you're in a relationship, it's "what it could have been" with someone else, or you're bored, or you're not happy. I fuck non-stop in my current relationship, slammin' body, same faith, still not doin' it for me quite yet. She loves pretty much everything I love.
Problem is she gets insanely jealous, doesn't seem to have many friends, and is pretty insecure. Warning signs?

What's too much to put up with?

Gunna play this one out and see where it goes.

Pick your poison I guess?
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I never wished I was married.
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One more question, would you guys ever date a girl that already has a child?
Fuck no.


I got out of a relationship 9 months ago. We were together for 3 years. Before her, I was in a relationship for 3 years.

So I was in 2 serious relationships over the course of 6 years.

I love being single and I think it will be a while before I have another relationship as serious as those.

And I have zero desire to get married or have kids anytime soon. Eventually. Like when I am 35 or 40. I want to enjoy being young. I don't care if I am an "older" dad.
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I fuck non-stop in my current relationship, slammin' body, same faith, still not doin' it for me quite yet. She loves pretty much everything I love.
Problem is she gets insanely jealous, doesn't seem to have many friends, and is pretty insecure. Warning signs?
Had this exactly in my last relationship. Yes, it will come to a head
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I think email, facebook and texting makes this all too easy.


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