E90Post
 


Extreme Powerhouse
 
BMW 3-Series (E90 E92) Forum > BIMMERPOST Universal Forums > Off-Topic Discussions Board > Dating - Good/Bad Experiences



Reply
 
Thread Tools Search this Thread
      05-13-2021, 02:22 PM   #8823
Chihuahua
Brigadier General
Chihuahua's Avatar
4479
Rep
3,366
Posts

Drives: E30 329iS, E65 Alpina B7
Join Date: May 2012
Location: TBD

iTrader: (0)

Quote:
Originally Posted by lnsaneM View Post
What do you do when you know your boy/girl-friend is bad for you in everyway but just can't break up with them?
You are disrespecting yourself by accepting anything less than what you deserve. You recognize that you deserve better, hence this post. Start valuing yourself and this decision gets VERY easy VERY quickly.
Appreciate 3
King Rudi13072.00
Sedan_Clan27038.00
      05-13-2021, 02:29 PM   #8824
4Hockey4
Banned
838
Rep
674
Posts

Drives: Pinto
Join Date: Aug 2019
Location: Here

iTrader: (0)

Quote:
Originally Posted by King Rudi View Post
Alright guys and gals, collective input requested here. Do you all buy gifts for your significant other for mother's or father's day? I mean, she is a mother....but to me it seems weird to by a gift for someone who isn't my mother. Thoughts/opinions appreciated.
Guess it depends on situation, we haven't exchanged gifts for over 25 years on Hallmark holidays. If she "demanded" flowers on V day we'd never have been together...I get gifts and flowers when I'm thinking about her, not when ignored women feel they need attn. day.

ie I celebrate my wife everyday

and yes if unhappy leave, its not going to get better, just worse.
Appreciate 1
King Rudi13072.00
      05-14-2021, 09:16 AM   #8825
ryan stewart
Major
2249
Rep
1,351
Posts

Drives: 2008 328it
Join Date: Aug 2012
Location: Atlanta, GA

iTrader: (0)

Quote:
Originally Posted by lnsaneM View Post
I'm confident, it has nothing to do with that. Oh yeah and I'm definitely staying away from getting into anything financial or children with them. Maybe I just need to burn it off over time. But time is ticking...
Nope, its a band aid. And like a band aid you rip it off.

Its not really just confidence, its comfort with being "alone." You have to be perfectly fine with "just" friends and family in your life and no relationship, then you are in the right place to only accept someone who enhances your life.

Ive seen too many people treat relationships like a drug, where they NEED it. They either can only leave one relationship if they have another lined up (cheating/branch swinging) or the moment one ends for any reason they are immediately on the hunt for another (and they always end up settling).

And its also a good red flag to notice from the other side too, if someone NEEDS you its going to be trouble. If they WANT you then youre better off.
Appreciate 6
cmyx6go16852.00
Buug95923495.50
King Rudi13072.00
MKSixer34133.50
Dang3r12481.50
      05-14-2021, 09:42 AM   #8826
Tommy-G
Captain
Tommy-G's Avatar
4614
Rep
694
Posts

Drives: 2015 435 Vert Alpine White
Join Date: Apr 2010
Location: Bradenton FL

iTrader: (0)

Where's Sara hope she hasn't been abducted by one of her suitors
Appreciate 4
vreihen1620930.00
MKSixer34133.50
Sedan_Clan27038.00
      05-14-2021, 12:04 PM   #8827
King Rudi
Lieutenant Colonel
King Rudi's Avatar
13072
Rep
1,965
Posts

Drives: Meat Suit
Join Date: Sep 2017
Location: Planet Earth

iTrader: (0)

Quote:
Originally Posted by ryan stewart View Post
Nope, its a band aid. And like a band aid you rip it off.

Its not really just confidence, its comfort with being "alone." You have to be perfectly fine with "just" friends and family in your life and no relationship, then you are in the right place to only accept someone who enhances your life.

Ive seen too many people treat relationships like a drug, where they NEED it. They either can only leave one relationship if they have another lined up (cheating/branch swinging) or the moment one ends for any reason they are immediately on the hunt for another (and they always end up settling).

And its also a good red flag to notice from the other side too, if someone NEEDS you its going to be trouble. If they WANT you then youre better off.
Well said.
__________________
Quote:
Originally Posted by jmg View Post
We're Americans. Leave your logic and science witchcraft out of this! Jesus and guns are all we need.
Appreciate 0
      05-17-2021, 03:53 AM   #8828
Dang3r
Schmollbraten
Dang3r's Avatar
Germany
12482
Rep
1,985
Posts

Drives: M4CPC // HP4 Comp.
Join Date: Jun 2015
Location: Liandri Central Core

iTrader: (0)

Quote:
Originally Posted by TommyG-inFlaNow View Post
Where's Sara hope she hasn't been abducted by one of her suitors
Im affraid she got leg-humped several times according to her spreaded interest to got a new realtionship
__________________
Citizen of ///M - Town, where too much is just right

Some say, that my scrotum has its own small gravity field and when Im slowing down that brake lights come on at my buttox
Appreciate 1
Tommy-G4614.00
      05-18-2021, 10:24 AM   #8829
UncleWede
Long Time Admirer, First Time Owner
UncleWede's Avatar
United_States
18458
Rep
9,428
Posts

Drives: G01 X3 M40i Dark Graphite
Join Date: Jun 2005
Location: Oxnard, CA

iTrader: (0)

Now for something positive: my little brother got married Sunday, I was a best man. I survived Monday at work, but TODAY is going to be tough!
Appreciate 7
cmyx6go16852.00
Joekerr7921.50
Dang3r12481.50
MKSixer34133.50
vreihen1620930.00
upstatedoc7534.50
Buug95923495.50
      05-18-2021, 11:58 AM   #8830
MKSixer
Lieutenant General
MKSixer's Avatar
34134
Rep
11,637
Posts

Drives: 2015 BMW i8, E63 M6, 328d
Join Date: Jun 2015
Location: Southeast United States

iTrader: (0)

Garage List
2016 M4 GTS (Allotted)  [0.00]
2013 BMW 328d  [0.00]
2007 BMW M6  [10.00]
2015 BMW i8  [10.00]
Quote:
Originally Posted by UncleWede View Post
Now for something positive: my little brother got married Sunday, I was a best man. I survived Monday at work, but TODAY is going to be tough!
Congratulations!!

Was there any Prancercising going on? Asking for a friend...
__________________
Several actors have played James Bond, Sean Connery IS James Bond...
Sir 7ewis, 7X FIA Formula One World Championship, World Driving Champion. 100 Wins. 101 Pole Positions. 54 Fastest Laps. Actual Rain Master. Leave me to it, Bono. One Race Win in each of his 15 years in F1. Most Laps Led in Formula One. The Centurion.
Appreciate 0
      05-21-2021, 10:15 AM   #8831
nyalpine90
Lieutenant General
nyalpine90's Avatar
7552
Rep
11,936
Posts

Drives: MY24 G01 AW Msport
Join Date: Feb 2008
Location: L.I. NY

iTrader: (4)

Garage List
2016 BMW X4  [9.25]
Quote:
Originally Posted by MKSixer View Post
Congratulations!!

Was there any Prancercising going on? Asking for a friend...
no more electric slide??
is that new dance?
Appreciate 0
      06-02-2021, 03:12 PM   #8832
Sara
Lieutenant General
5885
Rep
17,879
Posts

Drives: A car
Join Date: Aug 2007
Location: Nola

iTrader: (6)

Where did everyone go?
Appreciate 0
      06-02-2021, 03:20 PM   #8833
upstatedoc
I'll get back to you
upstatedoc's Avatar
7535
Rep
2,132
Posts

Drives: blue streak
Join Date: Dec 2009
Location: not downstate

iTrader: (2)

Saw the thread and that Sarah had posted. Immediately clicked on the thread and was disappointed
__________________
2018 Stinger GT
2009 E90 N51 /Active Autowerke Stage 2 tune/BMW Performance Exhaust/
Countermeasure enthusiast.
Appreciate 0
      06-02-2021, 03:20 PM   #8834
JP10
Major
JP10's Avatar
United_States
2476
Rep
1,143
Posts

Drives: M3
Join Date: Jan 2018
Location: SC

iTrader: (0)

Got married - first day back
Appreciate 5
cmyx6go16852.00
vreihen1620930.00
Dang3r12481.50
      06-02-2021, 03:26 PM   #8835
cmyx6go
Colonel
cmyx6go's Avatar
16852
Rep
2,088
Posts

Drives: 2022 X6///M Comp
Join Date: Aug 2015
Location: NYC

iTrader: (2)

Garage List
2019 X6 ///M  [10.00]
Quote:
Originally Posted by JP10 View Post
Got married - first day back
Congrats!
__________________
I thought I was a good person but the way I react when people drive slowly in the left lane would suggest otherwise
Appreciate 1
JP102476.00
      06-02-2021, 03:48 PM   #8836
King Rudi
Lieutenant Colonel
King Rudi's Avatar
13072
Rep
1,965
Posts

Drives: Meat Suit
Join Date: Sep 2017
Location: Planet Earth

iTrader: (0)

Quote:
Originally Posted by JP10 View Post
Got married - first day back
No shit??? Congrats!!!
__________________
Quote:
Originally Posted by jmg View Post
We're Americans. Leave your logic and science witchcraft out of this! Jesus and guns are all we need.
Appreciate 1
JP102476.00
      06-02-2021, 04:29 PM   #8837
rebekahb
First Lieutenant
3233
Rep
320
Posts

Drives: 2020 X5 M50i
Join Date: Nov 2018
Location: New Orleans, LA

iTrader: (0)

Quote:
Originally Posted by JP10 View Post
Got married - first day back
Congrats! How did everything turn out? I like details.
Appreciate 1
JP102476.00
      06-02-2021, 05:10 PM   #8838
JP10
Major
JP10's Avatar
United_States
2476
Rep
1,143
Posts

Drives: M3
Join Date: Jan 2018
Location: SC

iTrader: (0)

Quote:
Originally Posted by cmyx6go View Post
Congrats!
Quote:
Originally Posted by King Rudi View Post
No shit??? Congrats!!!
Quote:
Originally Posted by rebekahb View Post
Congrats! How did everything turn out? I like details.
Thanks y'all! Everything was great. Long wedding - a lot of the bridal party showed up Wednesday the 19th. Golf & drinks for myself allday with the groomsmen, spa & drinks for the wife. Thursday we checked into the resort, luckily just 40 mins away, where we held the wedding. All of the bridal party and majority of guests were there at that point (we had about 150 show up). Friday morning was rehearsal followed by rehearsal brunch in downtown Charleston (we rented a vintage bus for 50 of us which was a blast!). Got back to the resort around 2 and hit the beach & beach bar until 8. From 8-10pm we hosted a welcome party for the guests. Saturday was a busy day. Started getting ready at 10am, girls were starting at 8am. Photographer for both of us showed up at noon and we knocked that out. First look at 1pm, bridal party photos at 2pm, ceremony at 3:30pm, then reception until 10pm. It was a long exhausting day, but we had an absolute blast. Everything was outdoor and the weather was perfect, around 84 with a breeze. Luckily the reception was relatively shaded, ceremony was a little warm so that is what it is. We stayed at the resort all Sunday just hanging out with family and friends.

Monday we took off to Costa Rica which was an absolute blast. Monday-Friday at a private residence in Tamarindo at which we drove to a bunch of the local beaches and enjoyed some fantastic food. Friday-Tuesday at a all inclusive resort up in Playa Flamingo. Got back into Charleston and home around 11:30pm - minor hicup as our bags did not make the transition onto our flight from Miami to Charleston. With that said I just received update that they have arrived at the airport.

I'll try to get some pics together but I don't want to fill up the thread too much!
Appreciate 8
Joekerr7921.50
rebekahb3232.50
Dang3r12481.50
nyalpine907551.50
King Rudi13072.00
MKSixer34133.50
      06-02-2021, 05:39 PM   #8839
Sara
Lieutenant General
5885
Rep
17,879
Posts

Drives: A car
Join Date: Aug 2007
Location: Nola

iTrader: (6)

Quote:
Originally Posted by JP10 View Post
Got married - first day back
CONGRATS!!
Appreciate 2
JP102476.00
MKSixer34133.50
      06-02-2021, 06:59 PM   #8840
IllSic_Design
Colonel
IllSic_Design's Avatar
2125
Rep
2,759
Posts

Drives: 12 E92 328i
Join Date: Jun 2016
Location: Northern California

iTrader: (1)

Quote:
Originally Posted by JP10 View Post

Monday we took off to Costa Rica which was an absolute blast. Monday-Friday at a private residence in Tamarindo at which we drove to a bunch of the local beaches and enjoyed some fantastic food. Friday-Tuesday at a all inclusive resort up in Playa Flamingo. Got back into Charleston and home around 11:30pm - minor hicup as our bags did not make the transition onto our flight from Miami to Charleston. With that said I just received update that they have arrived at the airport.

I'll try to get some pics together but I don't want to fill up the thread too much!

Congrats on the wedding, sounds like a good time.

And that's the area I stayed both times when I went to Costa Rica, love it there!
Appreciate 1
JP102476.00
      06-02-2021, 07:08 PM   #8841
Turkish Pickle
Banned
United_States
3058
Rep
381
Posts

Drives: '21 330i xDrive
Join Date: Dec 2009
Location: Chicago, IL

iTrader: (0)

Garage List
Quote:
Originally Posted by lnsaneM View Post
I'm confident, it has nothing to do with that. Oh yeah and I'm definitely staying away from getting into anything financial or children with them. Maybe I just need to burn it off over time. But time is ticking...
I'm in a similar boat as you in that I'm starting to really feel the effects of her shitty parents on her. I don't really know what to do about it - I'm teetering between feeling bad because she's fried and feeling frustrated because it's affecting me...

It's not even like I'm on a mission to "save her" or anything but it just doesn't feel right to break up with someone over their bad parenting, but doesn't feel right to continue feeling like this about myself in this relationship.
Appreciate 2
King Rudi13072.00
      06-02-2021, 07:42 PM   #8842
Tambohamilton
Brigadier General
3176
Rep
4,051
Posts

Drives: E91 330d
Join Date: Apr 2019
Location: Herefordshire

iTrader: (0)

You've got to act on it. Talk it through with her, see if anything can be done etc. Don't just wait and pretend it'll go away on its own.... spoiler; it won't!

YMMV
Appreciate 2
      06-02-2021, 08:46 PM   #8843
upstatedoc
I'll get back to you
upstatedoc's Avatar
7535
Rep
2,132
Posts

Drives: blue streak
Join Date: Dec 2009
Location: not downstate

iTrader: (2)

Quote:
Originally Posted by IllSic_Design View Post
Quote:
Originally Posted by JP10 View Post

Monday we took off to Costa Rica which was an absolute blast. Monday-Friday at a private residence in Tamarindo at which we drove to a bunch of the local beaches and enjoyed some fantastic food. Friday-Tuesday at a all inclusive resort up in Playa Flamingo. Got back into Charleston and home around 11:30pm - minor hicup as our bags did not make the transition onto our flight from Miami to Charleston. With that said I just received update that they have arrived at the airport.

I'll try to get some pics together but I don't want to fill up the thread too much!

Congrats on the wedding, sounds like a good time.

And that's the area I stayed both times when I went to Costa Rica, love it there!
Quote:
Originally Posted by King Rudi View Post
Quote:
Originally Posted by JP10 View Post
Got married - first day back
No shit??? Congrats!!!
Quote:
Originally Posted by rebekahb View Post
Quote:
Originally Posted by JP10 View Post
Got married - first day back
Congrats! How did everything turn out? I like details.
Quote:
Originally Posted by Sara View Post
Quote:
Originally Posted by JP10 View Post
Got married - first day back
CONGRATS!!
Guys, he's not dating anymore. He's in prison!
__________________
2018 Stinger GT
2009 E90 N51 /Active Autowerke Stage 2 tune/BMW Performance Exhaust/
Countermeasure enthusiast.
Appreciate 3
JP102476.00
UncleWede18458.00
M5Rick69557.50
      06-02-2021, 09:05 PM   #8844
vreihen16
Recovering Perfectionist
vreihen16's Avatar
20930
Rep
1,013
Posts

Drives: BMW-less :(
Join Date: Jun 2019
Location: Orange County, NY

iTrader: (0)

Garage List
Quote:
Originally Posted by upstatedoc View Post
Guys, he's not dating anymore. He's in prison!
As an upstate employee of the Department of Corrections (DOC) per your screen name, you should know.....
__________________
Currently BMW-less.
Appreciate 1
upstatedoc7534.50
Reply

Bookmarks


Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off



All times are GMT -5. The time now is 01:17 PM.




e90post
Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.11
Copyright ©2000 - 2024, vBulletin Solutions Inc.
1Addicts.com, BIMMERPOST.com, E90Post.com, F30Post.com, M3Post.com, ZPost.com, 5Post.com, 6Post.com, 7Post.com, XBimmers.com logo and trademark are properties of BIMMERPOST