[8k3]

Call her? Never had to do it. Curious. She wigged out on me for very small things in the end which made me suspicious. Can't help but to miss her though months later. I don't want games (I typically don't), I have a feeling she will in some fashion by playing hard to get, want control, etc. If she does I'l like to make it clear I'm not down for that without pushing her away. I'm probably nuts for considering her, chemistry is what it is (it didn't hurt that she was smart and beautiful as well)

[GOLFFRR]

you broke up for a reason the first time. IMO I would let it go and move on. Very rarely when people break up and get back together does it work

[einbruch10]

This happened to me but now we've been married over 3 years. So I think it's subjective, I knew that if we got back together we would marry.

[CIFUM3]

Man I went through almost the same! shit sucked for a bit its been three months now and I do miss her but its probably for the best... now that I think about it.

[pikkagtr]

move on to bigger and better things,
the bad things that happen to us in life only steer us in a better direction is how I see things

[squishy]

It's for the better.

Plenty of smart and beautiful women out there.

Chasing them, getting rejected, getting their numbers, etc., is exciting! Keep your head up and move forward, don't dwell upon the past

[kprocivic]

I tried it with the ex, unfortunately it didn't work out. Have someone else she's definitely one of a kind. If it's not worth it you'll find someone else. There are millions of compatible girls in the world I'm sure you'll find one.

[8k3]

Thanks for all the advice and feedback. I guess it doesn't hurt to try other than opening a wound but then again the should, would, could have thoughts probably would set in at some point. She's had issues from her past and gets very defensive but I want to see if we can work past that (or work toward anything at all). I have a feeling she is going to be difficult to approach at least at first. I have to go into this with a nothing to lose mentality. Trust was a major issue for me, I always felt she was hiding things, which she was with regard to at least a couple things. When called out on it she wigged on me so to speak.

[Silvermike]

Originally Posted by 8k3

Call her? Never had to do it. Curious. She wigged out on me for very small things in the end which made me suspicious. Can't help but to miss her though months later. I don't want games (I typically don't), I have a feeling she will in some fashion by playing hard to get, want control, etc. If she does I'l like to make it clear I'm not down for that without pushing her away. I'm probably nuts for considering her, chemistry is what it is (it didn't hurt that she was smart and beautiful as well)

Your gf was hiding/lying and possibly cheating on you.

Harden up my friend.

[Lups]

Originally Posted by GOLFFRR

you broke up for a reason the first time. IMO I would let it go and move on. Very rarely when people break up and get back together does it work

Yup, usually we are driven back to the past by fear of being alone instead of loving the person so damn much.

[squishy]

Originally Posted by 8k3

Thanks for all the advice and feedback. I guess it doesn't hurt to try other than opening a wound but then again the should, would, could have thoughts probably would set in at some point. She's had issues from her past and gets very defensive but I want to see if we can work past that (or work toward anything at all). I have a feeling she is going to be difficult to approach at least at first. I have to go into this with a nothing to lose mentality. Trust was a major issue for me, I always felt she was hiding things, which she was with regard to at least a couple things. When called out on it she wigged on me so to speak.

Do NOT go back to that relationship. Trust me. Trust is at the foundation of every solid relationship, if that was an issue then, why would you feel it would be any different now?

Just listen: DON'T DO IT. I'm saving you a shit ton of headache and trouble down the road...

I just got out of a relationship where trust was in fact the issue, and she cheated on me twice...

Just the thought that she was texting me while she was with him, telling me how much she loves me, sickens me to the stomach. She was both beautiful and smart, but I feel so disgusted every time I even think about that woman.

There are other beautiful and smart women out there. I am 99% confident, based on what you said, she had a relationship with someone else behind your back, and fucked him on multiple occasions.

If you felt she was hiding things, she was. Our gut instincts are incredibly reliable...that's why we have gut instincts in the first place, to protect ourselves.

[tova86]

Tf is this

[MrPrena]

squishy is right.
Although I have not yet to have that kind breakup=> hook up =>breakup => hook up relationship, I would just go forward.

Originally Posted by squishy

Do NOT go back to that relationship. Trust me. Trust is at the foundation of every solid relationship, if that was an issue then, why would you feel it would be any different now?

Just listen: DON'T DO IT. I'm saving you a shit ton of headache and trouble down the road...

I just got out of a relationship where trust was in fact the issue, and she cheated on me twice...

Just the thought that she was texting me while she was with him, telling me how much she loves me, sickens me to the stomach. She was both beautiful and smart, but I feel so disgusted every time I even think about that woman.

There are other beautiful and smart women out there. I am 99% confident, based on what you said, she had a relationship with someone else behind your back, and fucked him on multiple occasions.

If you felt she was hiding things, she was. Our gut instincts are incredibly reliable...that's why we have gut instincts in the first place, to protect ourselves.

[SMOKE EM IF U GOT EM!!]

Originally Posted by tova86

Tf is this

[theriz]

FDB

[MrPrena]

LOL. I initially thought this tread was about getting ex-gf back after getting back in shape type of thread.

[8k3]

Apologies if in the wrong section

[RMJ335i]

Originally Posted by GOLFFRR

you broke up for a reason the first time. IMO I would let it go and move on. Very rarely when people break up and get back together does it work

+1 trew dat

[fdagen]

Move on. It's tough now, but when you find the right person with no drama you will wonder why you ever considered going back.

[squidlyboy]

you need to sit down and think long and hard and ask yourself "Can i live with this girl?" with all that that entails. Then ask yourself the question, "Can i live without this girl?" The strength of your answer to both of those questions will determine what you should do. Either way, you've got a tough long road ahead of you. Good luck my friend ...

[8k3]

Originally Posted by squidlyboy

you need to sit down and think long and hard and ask yourself "Can i live with this girl?" with all that that entails. Then ask yourself the question, "Can i live without this girl?" The strength of your answer to both of those questions will determine what you should do. Either way, you've got a tough long road ahead of you. Good luck my friend ...

I certainly can live without her, yes. But the contention I have with moving on is finding someone that I shared the same connection with. We would talk for hours about everything and anything, politics, religion, current affairs, etc. We had the same interests, goals, and so on. I'm in my mid 30s, I've dated quite a few women and have yet to meet anyone that I had such a connection with. Yes she had baggage, her past abusive relationship caused abandonment issues among others. I'm just trying to decide if the good outweighs the bad. I might be opening pandora's box.

[UncleWede]

Originally Posted by 8k3

I'm just trying to decide if the good outweighs the bad.

There you have answered the $64 question.

This is something that I do almost every day with my wife. Still the answer for me is YES.