[UltimateBMW]

Move on and forget her. But perhaps first, kindly remind her you are a accomplished sniper.

Then never talk to her again. A lot of times in these situations people's own minds and thoughts can do more damage than you ever could. And if her new/old guy beats her, well then that just means she'll absolutely be getting hers. Choose the high road, and never look back.

[Scimitar335i]

The cute, nice, and shy girls are the freakiest whores in alll of bitchland....

[MrRoboto]

Originally Posted by Aonarch

So an introduction of myself. I am a Marine Combat veteran (Scout Sniper), with more kills than you have fingers and toes.... Lol, that is an introduction to my complete emotional numbness...

So I've been dating this girl for a month now, but talking to her for a while. She is very cute, shy and smart. We've talked every night for hours, but rarely on the phone just on AIM. We've had about 5 official dates, which all went smoothly.

So tonight she shows up on my door step with her friend (girl) who I am not a fan of (huge bitch). I was in bed btw when she was pounding at my door. So I let her in and they come in my living room and sit next to each other on the couch. I try sitting next to Linda (Thats her name) and she is just numb, doesnt look at me or anything... Ok so to sum that shit up she walks out 30 minutes later with no excuse. I go outside in the cold with bare feet and a tee shirt asking why are you leaving. She doesnt say anything. About 10 minutes later I call her and ask what the hell did I do... Anyways she claims that I ignored her and was mean... Lol wtf bitch I tried sitting next to you and I tried talking to you. So we get into conversation and I get pissed. Ok so last thursday she left my house at 1am to go pick up a drunk girl friend. Guess what after interrogating her it turns out that she was spending time with another guy, an ex boyfriend... After she tells me that they are over... So she then confesses that she is dating both of us.. She says whats the big deal with that? That its ok to have two boyfriends. OMG... This is a shy nice cute smart college girl... I never had any any warning signs and she has been lying to me since day one. She says that we aren't mutually exclusive and that she can have as many boyfriends as she wants... OMG. I tell her well what if I was dating another girl right now? She tells me that she wouldn't care, as long as I didn't tell her about it... Are you serious?

I am a very attractive guy, lol. I can talk to anyone. I've dated a lot of girls, and never never had I ever had an experience like this. I might expect it from a blonde skank that I picked up in a bar, but this???

I'm so confused right now, as I said I am emotionally numb, but I do have honor and pride. Right now I am furious, because I just got played by an "innocent" 22 year old girl...

Wow...

1 month?...suck it up

[sysfailur]

You should figure out when she's going to be on her next date with this other guy, and then do to her what Ryan Phillipe did to Sarah Silverman in The Way of the Gun.

[Alexander]

Originally Posted by MrRoboto

1 month?...suck it up

Sorry that I came off as emo. I was drunk as hell when I wrote that. My problem was the fact that she was constantly lying to me about everything. That is no way to start a relationship. So no biggy, I'm moving on.

[ncarter124]

Women are the absolute devil. I finally got played one too many times, and have been celibate for almost 5 years now because of them. I will never touch another one again in my life. I'm not saying to go that route, but I am telling you to get used to it, because they WILL play you, they WILL leave you, and they WILL divorce you if you even get that far.

[imported_Nomad]

Wow, there are a lot of misogynists here.

It happens. The thing is if you have an attitude that women are bitches, then you deserve to be "played." Respect goes both ways. I agree what she did was uncalled for and wrong; however, we are only hearing your side of things, not hers too. Perhaps, your perception of things is not reality. Maybe there were signs that you chose to overlook because you were too smitten with this girl.

Regardless, move on. The great thing is that there is more than one woman in the world. In addition, you learn more from failure than you do from success.

[ArmyBimmerDude]

Originally Posted by Aonarch

Yes her ex is in the Army.... That's right I got played by a chick and her Army POG ex boyfriend... So I'm guessing that she is a uniform chaser, but she never commented on me being a Marine.

Is that what's really bothering you? That you lost your girl to an Army soldier? It was only a month, you should be good in a couple days. Go out and fuck someone else and move on. Men lie, women lie, eventually you'll find one that doesn't want you for your benefits.

[Alexander]

Originally Posted by ArmyBimmerDude

Is that what's really bothering you? That you lost your girl to an Army soldier? It was only a month, you should be good in a couple days. Go out and fuck someone else and move on. Men lie, women lie, eventually you'll find one that doesn't want you for your benefits.

Lol, well put.

[Turbo>NA]

Originally Posted by Aonarch

So an introduction of myself. I am a Marine Combat veteran (Scout Sniper), with more kills than you have fingers and toes.... Lol, that is an introduction to my complete emotional numbness...

So I've been dating this girl for a month now, but talking to her for a while. She is very cute, shy and smart. We've talked every night for hours, but rarely on the phone just on AIM. We've had about 5 official dates, which all went smoothly.

So tonight she shows up on my door step with her friend (girl) who I am not a fan of (huge bitch). I was in bed btw when she was pounding at my door. So I let her in and they come in my living room and sit next to each other on the couch. I try sitting next to Linda (Thats her name) and she is just numb, doesnt look at me or anything... Ok so to sum that shit up she walks out 30 minutes later with no excuse. I go outside in the cold with bare feet and a tee shirt asking why are you leaving. She doesnt say anything. About 10 minutes later I call her and ask what the hell did I do... Anyways she claims that I ignored her and was mean... Lol wtf bitch I tried sitting next to you and I tried talking to you. So we get into conversation and I get pissed. Ok so last thursday she left my house at 1am to go pick up a drunk girl friend. Guess what after interrogating her it turns out that she was spending time with another guy, an ex boyfriend... After she tells me that they are over... So she then confesses that she is dating both of us.. She says whats the big deal with that? That its ok to have two boyfriends. OMG... This is a shy nice cute smart college girl... I never had any any warning signs and she has been lying to me since day one. She says that we aren't mutually exclusive and that she can have as many boyfriends as she wants... OMG. I tell her well what if I was dating another girl right now? She tells me that she wouldn't care, as long as I didn't tell her about it... Are you serious?

I am a very attractive guy, lol. I can talk to anyone. I've dated a lot of girls, and never never had I ever had an experience like this. I might expect it from a blonde skank that I picked up in a bar, but this???

I'm so confused right now, as I said I am emotionally numb, but I do have honor and pride. Right now I am furious, because I just got played by an "innocent" 22 year old girl...

Wow...

Ok first off, nothing is your fault. Some rules and facts of this girl.


She wants attention a lot
She wants "her," feelings and needs meet, which you did and did not do. But thats okay because your human and we are not perfect.


I have dated a lot of girls and have been through a lot. I have dated almost every race and almost every "kind of girl."

And my answer to your problem is, that this "Linda," is still not over her EX. Believe me, their is a reason why they become and "EX," but they still have feelings with each other, and she was hoping to have somthin with you but she realized it did not workout

so she went back to her EX. Its very typical and theirs nothing wrong with that. I have done that to, we all have feelings that we can get rid of yet.

Therefore, you got stuck in the middle, you have every right to get pissed for wasting your time, but now you know.

My advice, this chick could be your fuck buddy thats it. Trust me, sooner or later her EX is ganna be back in her life. If you want to be serious or make things clear.

Call Linda over and talk to her calmly and present what you wanted to know. Which is, "Are you still with your EX?" "Are we ever going to workout?" "How come you didnt tell me you and your EX still talked?"

ask these basic things, and it will be clear. I would also call the EX and ask him, because girls sometimes are always un decided when they are pressured.

Because again, your an EX Soldier who will fuckn kill someone. So she might be scared. Talk to the EX..


In my culture, most of the time the guys would call teh EX's and ask the guys if it was okay if they dated the girl. Just make things clear and stay out of trouble. Because it gets very ugly and people even go to jail, for what? A girl?


So good luck

and let us know what happens.

[Derek Zoolander]

Originally Posted by Aonarch

... This is a shy nice cute smart college girl...

This does not exist. There are traits missing. Therein lies your problem.

[PINeely]

She's someone else's problem now. The thing about women like this who think that dating multiple people is not only ok, but also that you should accept it no questions asked, is that they ALWAYS get their just desserts. Someone will absolutely destroy her emotionally down the line for something like this. So just let it go, take a break and relish in the thought of her getting whats coming.

[ragingclue]

Originally Posted by PINeely

She's someone else's problem now. The thing about women like this who think that dating multiple people is not only ok, but also that you should accept it no questions asked, is that they ALWAYS get their just desserts. Someone will absolutely destroy her emotionally down the line for something like this. So just let it go, take a break and relish in the thought of her getting whats coming.

Yeah I never understood how some women think it's ok to mix man juice inside of them... That's just ridiculous. And to think she wouldn't even mention that it was going on to the OP.... Fuck, if I found out I had possibly been up in that when someone else's swimmers could still be in the water, I'd go ballistic. Dating multiple people and having it cleared with everyone involved is one thing, to hide it is another.

[PINeely]

Originally Posted by ragingclue

Yeah I never understood how some women think it's ok to mix man juice inside of them... That's just ridiculous. And to think she wouldn't even mention that it was going on to the OP.... Fuck, if I found out I had possibly been up in that when someone else's swimmers could still be in the water, I'd go ballistic. Dating multiple people and having it cleared with everyone involved is one thing, to hide it is another.

Exactly. for anything like that, it's all gotta be on the table.

[Spec 1]

Originally Posted by BMW E90

First of all, it's only been about a month so you shouldn't be so down about it. I know it's harder said than done but still. Secondly, dating is different from a relationship. When you're dating you are allowed to date more than one person. It's kind of like a company interviewing candidates for a job. When 2 people have been dating for a while and they feel a connection and want to be exclusive, they enter into a relationship. That's when it is wrong to be involved with others.

This x10. You seem to be very different minded, in that you said "why would you ever date more than one person at once?" etc. I've been primarily single for the last 6 years, and I'm usually either dating nobody or 3 girls at the same time. Dating is one thing, you're getting to know each other and see if you can spend quality time together. After a while (generally a month or two for me, say 7+ dates) if you find the person awesome you enter a relationship. At THAT point, you don't date others. You sir, were not in a relationship and were just dating, so I agree with chicka in that she did nothing wrong. If y'all hadn't had a conversation about being exclusive, you wern't. Don't be so smitten you can't see that. Sorry dude.

Originally Posted by bunnn

I know someone like that ..she'd get close with someone then go completely cold, eventually erasing people out of her life.. not that she genuinely wants to hurt people it's the past that she had ...

Have had this problem in the past myself. Usually comes along with abandonment issues and shows they had problems being close with their parents when younger.

Originally Posted by Dan in PA

Women fucking suck dude...That is all I can say

Short and concise

Originally Posted by Aonarch

As to that whole outtake on dating... I'm not sure it's growing up in the South, but I've never considered it normal to date multiple people at once. I understand that you can go on a date then another date with another person, but I just don't understand why anybody would be that big in a rush. Also it shouldn't take 10 dates to feel a connection, in my mind it should be apparent rather quickly.

See man, this is what I'm talking about. You must have been reared differently then many of us. It's not uncommon for me to be dating 2-3 women at a time. They generally don't know about each other and I don't feel a need for them to unless I decide I want a relationship with one of those girls. It's not that I'm in a "rush", it's that I end up meeting women around the same time and give them chances to show their qualities - they could very well just turn into friends but I have to date them to find that out, eh. I'm not quick into a relationship, which sounds like your girl isn't either. If you assume you're together after 4-5 dates, especially when yall chat all night "over AIM, not the phone", then you sir, ARE clingy like she said.

It doesn't take 10 dates to feel a connection, but it does take 10 dates to know if I want to waste the next 6 months or more with a woman. People aren't who they come across as up front and it takes a while to get that.

Sorry to side with the woman (gaaah! Hate doing that! ) but I have to.\



Edit: It also doesn't seem like OP and chick were getting it on. I try to only sleep with 1 girl at a time, even if I'm dating 3 of them. We can't assume this chick is a 'hoe' or whatever especially if her and OP were only doing a few makeout sessions, etc.

[GreenPlease]

I had a very similar experience. Dated a girl that was in her early 20s, shy, innocent, very smart. Dated for about a year, everything was going great, never had an argument, then one day she just turned a cold shoulder to me. I found out later on that she had been "talking" to a guy at work.

It bothered me over a year. I couldn't bring myself to date or even look at another girl. I just couldn't understand what the hell my ex was thinking when she broke up with me. I couldn't understand her logic. Eventually, I concluded that there was no logic, there was no reason, it wasn't a flaw or fault on my part, she was just crazy. In general, women are.

Don't waste your time coming to the same conclusion. Life is short. Move on. I've composed this venn diagram that describes the attributes of potential female partners to clarify this or any future situation you might have:

[GreenPlease]

Also, if you are seeking financial advice, I'd advise you to....

[Blake]

FBGM

[ncarter124]

Disregard Females, acquire currency...

Words to live by!!!

[ncarter124]

Originally Posted by Derek Zoolander

This does not exist. There are traits missing. Therein lies your problem.

+1,000,000

[Gavin@MMW]

Sounds like you need to Rodeo her and kick it to the curb after lol

[persian54]

I only read the OP's post and nothing else

and honestly bro, you weren't her bf... you talked on AIM and went on 5 dates.. so you are dating.. unless you specific you're in a committed relationship, she can go and date as many guys as she wants and you can date as many girls as you want.
so she didn't cheat
ignorance is bliss

and since you know her for such a short amount of time, I would personally be like "whatever" as long as you're having a good time (either on dates, on aim, sex, whatever)

if you were looking to get serious and have a committed relationship, you need to talk to her about that.
and if she's not down, then she's not for you.

But she did nothing wrong if you had not discussed being in a committed relationship.