[TiAg335i]

How did I guess that this thread was going to blow up...

[chbrules]

Originally Posted by AHY

car deposits are refundable in CA

Is that law? Because I'm going in Monday to cancel my order since Will @ LB BMW is giving me a better deal.

[fragadellic]

Originally Posted by MoreCowbell

You know what...I am going to take an alternate view here. And I know a lot of people will disagree with me, but so what...

GET the car when it comes in.

You are going through something awful in your life, and no matter how it turns out, its going to be a difficult, bumpy road for a while. And you know what? Personal finance is EXTREMELY important...but your mental health and finding a smile, even if only when you are behind the wheel of your car, is important.

While you are going through this...you'll need a diversion...you'll need SOMETHING, ANYTHING to make you smile. If it's a beautiful Bimmer...so be it.

Get the car...you have the rest of your life you to worry about your finances. We aren't talking a 500,000 dollar mortgage here...we are talking about a 45k car...a hobby...and most importantly, your happiness.

Best of luck to you.

ABSOLUTELY!!! If this doesn't go well you will absolutely need some kind of diversion to keep your spirits up and keep you on an even keel.

This forum will help you too, at least to some degree.

[BMW335i07]

The car will help you get a new woman in your life. If you can find one that makes more than your wife then you can turn this into a win-win.







Alright, I am just kidding, good luck and I am sorry to hear about your situation.

[SoCal335i]

Fuck Bitches.hahaha. Im not getting married for at least another 6-10 years. I want to keep enjoying life to the fullest without having a bitchy nagging girl around trying to control me. Get the car, tap the hoes, enjoy your life, and remember everything happens for a reason.

[fragadellic]

Originally Posted by 335Topless

To me a car is nothing next to my wife. I would ride a bike to have my wife back in your situation. Concentrate on what is important.

Be careful. Look at the bigger picture. There are situations where this could be a good thing in the long run. I know that's not the politically correct answer, but it's the truth. There may be circumstances that we aren't hearing about which might change your mind. Maybe the best thing for the OP in the long run is what is happening. There are situations where you need to work it out, and there are some situations where you need to "cut and run".

No-one on this forum is qualified to give advice anyway, so nothing we say should be taken with more than a grain of salt...

[fragadellic]

Originally Posted by SoCal335i

Fuck Bitches.hahaha. Im not getting married for at least another 6-10 years. I want to keep enjoying life to the fullest without having a bitchy nagging girl around trying to control me. Get the car, tap the hoes, enjoy your life, and remember everything happens for a reason.

+1 ab-so-fucking-luely

I got married when I was 31, almost 10 years ago. I would do it again exactly the same way again in a heartbeat.

[smellthebeans]

Take my advice....I IMPLORE you...

Hire a lawyer...a good one....

the best way to get even with her is to be happy....if it means keeping the car...keep it....its Joint debt assuming a community property state....stick her with the credit cards if you can...you keep the car.

go on a diet...cut your hair....get in shape and keep living life to the MAX

[fragadellic]

Originally Posted by smellthebeans

Take my advice.....

go on a diet...cut your hair....get in shape and keep living life to the MAX

anyone other than me reading between the lines here???

[mazzki]

Sounds like my ex-wife.... sorry to hear better off being single these days......

[OC Guy]

The majority of the responses here are rather immature.

If you married a woman, then she should be your #1 priority. You can always get the car later, I would focus on reconciling your relationship rather than focusing on the car. The last thing a woman wants is competition for her attention in this situation.

Good luck to you!

[RokX]

Originally Posted by boriquaguerrero

join the ARMY they`re giving big bonus to enlist. i been doing it for 7 years

Not to mention you get paid vacations to the greatest destinations in the world!

Hope all works out for the OP

[burger335i]

Take care of your personal life first. If things were going to be tight with needing 2 incomes to finance the car you would have been in trouble anyway constantly fighting about money.

[cwn23]

I personally went through a divorce and at first you think its the end of the world, but if it doesn't work now, it will not work later...If i didn't leave my first wife, i wouldv have continued to be miserable. Its been 7 years now since my divorce. I have moved on and married a women that is perfect for me...You know what you had and then you know what u want later!!!!
We have 2 beautiful kids and a new home and i have a 335i vert on the way..All i can say is treat yourself right and things find a way to workout... Get the f....ing car...Live life to the fulliest...things are meant to be, don't fight it let it happen!!!!! This post is from experience.....

Originally Posted by SoCal335i

Fuck Bitches.hahaha. Im not getting married for at least another 6-10 years. I want to keep enjoying life to the fullest without having a bitchy nagging girl around trying to control me. Get the car, tap the hoes, enjoy your life, and remember everything happens for a reason.

With your attitude on women, I recommend you never get married. Sorry some woman treated you so badly as a child.

[BMWfan07]

I have read all your posts so far and some of you have some real good thoughts. I appreciate the help, still trying to work on my marriage, it's been just 5 days of seperation, but it's been tough. I have been going over my finances and seeing how I can make the 335i purchase feasible. I know it might sound pathetic, and some of you have mentioned something along these lines, but getting this new BMW might be the only bright spot in my life amidst all the turmoil. I'm not giving up on my wife, and yes, I would give up the car in a heartbeat if it meant having her in my life. However, she's being very difficult at this time, and I just don't know that the car purchase will make or break the relationship or anything. I guess it's just too soon to tell. I got some real good ideas and suggestions, I thank you again.

[Potty_Pants]

Gl man whatever happens !

Something a friend said to me a long time ago (during my divorce)... it may look like sht now and it may continue to look like sht for a long while... but down the road everything will smooth out and the heartache,despair,etc will subside and be replaced with more positive emotions.

hell look at me, 10 years ago i went thru the divorce, almost lost my house, lost all my savings, lost my car, lost my sanity,etc... now 10 years later i still have my house, have a lot of toys and will soon be driving a loaded 335i. it does get better just takes awhile.

ppp

[BJG1968]

I would advise you to take the car as long as you can afford it. It's simple, either you can or you can't. Don't let two good things get away at the same time. By all means try to repair your marriage. If it doesn't work out, at least
you have the new ride to get you through some tough times and bring a smile
to your face.

[SinCity89]

I backed out on a BMW 4 years ago. They just held my deposit until car was sold. Considering it had the performance package sold the first week I think and I was able to get my cash back.

[niftyhawk]

OP dude.. get the wife back if u love her.. if not, get the car and take her gf on a drive.. the wife will return automatically.. If you dont have the guts to do both, get the car anyways and get a girl room mate who can share half ur expenses ..love is everywhere in america.. I am sure you will find someone..

[Phil G]

Not even going to give advice on the wife area as I am only 21 and can't give good advice in that area, however I would say if you can't afford the car, then don't get it. It's not worth it to ruin your credit and financial future. If you have to get a new car, there are PLENTY of incredibly fun new cars that will put a huge smile on your face for a LOT less than a 335i (or get an E46 ). Make your personal life your priority right now though as she should be your priority, I'm hoping that your wife has been your priority all along!

[milehigh5000]

dude..life is full of poor financial decisions one way or the other..if you can afford it, even if it'll be tight, i totally agree with morecowbell..get the car..i know personally having a nice car and driving it makes me feel good inside..but definitely find out whats up with your wife..nothings better than both having a wife you love and care about AND a nice car you can enjoy (with her)